Tootsie.Talk

Merry Christmas from Tootsie!

2009-12-25T06:18:00.000-05:00

merry christmas to you and yours!!!!

-Tootsie

Pleasure Fashion Spotlight: Naughty or Nice

2009-12-24T19:54:00.003-05:00

merry xmas eve-ning talkers! i hope you all have someone warm to cuddle under tonight on this frosty evening! to commemorate the celebration, i've decided to bring you a few of my fashion faves as ideas for all you ladies that are ready to be santa's little helpers. ;)

all of the chosen pieces can be found at 3wishes.com - lingerie, sexy costumes, and more. they have wide range of costumes that will make all your fantasies a little piece of reality. here are some of my faves for the season...

STRIPED SANTA

Reindeer Vixen Games

Present Pasties

Frosty the Snow Vixen

Christmas Fur

there are plenty more that i think are so cute, but i'd be here all day posting all of them. anyway, check it out! i'll let you all get back to your snuggle sessions of the season.

Sexual Astrology: The Captivating Capricorn

2009-12-22T19:34:00.002-05:00

brrrrr!! winter's here and it's time for a new sun sign, the goat, to shine and show it's sexual self.

WOMEN: Don’t need much foreplay - you go straight from zero to WOW in nothing flat!
Not interested in exotic variation; only staying in power. Since you like to dominate, you
like to be astride your man, set a rhythm, and please yourself. Once into a rhythm,
lovemaking becomes a wild contest with orgasm as the prize and you can depend on
getting here more than once. Also a scratcher and screamer. Best sex mates: Taurus,
Scorpio and Pisces.

MEN: Sex evokes the best he can offer. He is a planner and a schemer (that is schemer,
not a screamer!). Prefers a woman who knows what he enjoys, and he expects her to be
willing and ready whenever he wants her. Has the stamina of a marathon runner. Here is
the man who will hold off until you are ready to scream! Erogenous zone: a massage
that starts at the lower back and gently strokes upward along the sides of his spine.

*TOOTSIE ADDS: with the placement of their erogenous zones, capricorn men love doggy style, as well as spanking. they have a mean sexual appetite that one must always be ready for!

information was obtained from: http://all-horoscope.blogspot.com/2008/07/capricorn-sexual-astrology.html
*Tootsie's personal advice given

TOOTSIE TURNS 1!!!!

2009-12-13T08:20:00.000-05:00

yay!! today is tootsie's 1 year anny and i appreciate all your love and support you all have shown over the past year!! it feels like i just started the journey!!! keep the questions and support coming!!! i'll be posting for years to cum...i mean come. ;)

Happy World AIDS Day

2009-12-01T15:17:00.000-05:00

on december 1, we celebrate World AIDS Day, remembering those that have been touched by this epidemic and also to make those aware of preventing the spread and the importance of testing.

i write about sex, but i also encourage each of you to take interest in your sexual health. wear a condom!!!!!! if you are sexually active, you should get tested every 3-6 months. getting tested for the disease may seem like the worst thing on earth, but NOT KNOWING your status is just as detrimental! testing centers are anonymous and pain free. some places even have the rapid test method, which is a simple gum and cheek swab. in 20 minutes, you'll know your status! that's it!! if you're in a relationship, get tested together! if you're married, get tested together!!! AIDS is not a gay disease, a black disease, a white disease...it's a deadly disease!

check out http://www.testtogether.org or http://www.rapituppresents.com to find out where your nearest testing center is located. and remember: BE SMART!!! WRAP IT UP! GET TESTED!

Food & Sexual Health

2009-11-20T03:56:00.000-05:00

fellas, i know it's been a minute since i've dedicated a post to you all. forgive me. i just wanna make sure my ladies are well taken care of.

anyways, now that you're done bitching, i found an article that you'll find very interesting regarding you and that peni-cular tool you carry. are you aware that the foods you consume can very well help with your sexual functionality and health? check it...

"The best common vegetable for men’s sexual health has to be celery. Nearly every source that writes articles on good foods for mens sexual health cites celery as sexually beneficial. What really makes celery stand out is a potent hormone that it contains called andresterone.

Andresterone
Celery is unique because it contains the natural hormone “androsterone.” This is the same hormone that men naturally make in their bodies that stimulates sexual arousal in females.

So if you want your natural “smell” to make the women horny, then eat celery! While it is not known if celery has an actual “physical effect” on your body like giving you stronger erections or more semen production, this hormone does at least arouse women – that much is proven.

And of course the more a woman wants sex, the more her body will turn yours on. So in a circular kind of sexual way, celery does actually affect your psychological and then physical sexual responses!

There some vegetables that just look sexy, shaped like those that are shapped like a penis or phallus object, and celery is one of these. Asparagus and carrots are others (both good for your penis).

Celery has a mythological sexually stimulating history with the Romans and Swedes, and studies have shown that mythological or historically sexual foods tend to have some factual evidence behind them."

Source

Got Questions? Tootsie's Got Answers!

2009-11-19T21:24:00.002-05:00

send all inquiries to...

tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com

The Island of Miss-FIT Toys, Pt. 1

2009-11-19T20:24:00.010-05:00

it's the week before thanksgiving and i'm already in the holiday spirit! can you blame me? the atmosphere of lights, mistletoe, and being that little ho ho ho...ha! as i was cooking up my next post, i was on a search for toys myself...hehe. not the kind that little bobby or cindy lou who would talk to the grinch about stealing...the ones that bring joy to my...well, you get it. i need to re-up on my collection.

while doing my research, i came across this little sucker here...

it's the candy cane glass dildo. my eyes LIT up at this piece of art work. so smooth and yet, so useful! the price of one of these suckers (pun likely intended) will only run you $29.75!! that's it!!!

"Delicious in every way.

When you need an extra-special treat, this sleek and smooth pleasure wand is sure to tickle your taste buds. The Candy Cane features an 8" length with a slim 1.25" diameter. Use the straight end to tease and please or curved end for mouth-watering g-spot action. (The pronounced u-shape makes it absolutely perfect for prostate-play as well.) The Candy Cane is made from Borosilicate glass (more commonly known as Pyrex). It is non porous which makes it easy to clean and keep germ free.

Glass Pleasure Wands can be warmed or cooled to any desired temperature easily in water. Don Wands are not meant to be frozen but will retain heat for long periods of time. Your glass toy will last more than a lifetime when properly cared for. Don Wands glass is extremely durable and will not scratch easily. For added pleasure and comfort, always use with a personal lubricant." - Tabu Toys

men, take heed! if you're plannin' on takin' on some of that good christmas v'gine, why not come with something a little "extra sweet" for her to play with. i know i'm asking for one this season.

...excuse me while i go suck on a peppermint. *wink*

Source

Your Right to Noisy Sex (Dammit!)

2009-11-16T20:26:00.010-05:00

do you get that good ish?

no, i mean that good ish that makes you scream and holler, tear the paint off the walls, screech like a banshee, then walk bowlegged later? you know...that ish that have your orgasms go from 0 to 60 in a matter of 3.24 seconds and end up feeling like this...

yeah. that's what i'm talkin' about! so, in line of providing you with the unique sex articles in the wonderful world of sex, here's a DOOZY!

so basically this lady over in the UK is speaking out bc the authorities have banned her from making noise during sex! ok wow...like any noise? wait, it gets better!

Caroline and Steve Cartwright's love making was described as ''murder'' and ''unnatural'' and drowned out their neighbours' televisions.

Even the local postman and a woman, who walked past the house taking her child to school, complained and she was given a noise abatement order.

it's one thing to be loud, damn! is it that good?! lmao! now don't get me wrong; i've made this face a time or ten...

nevertheless this ain't about me! *wink*

tootsie says you have a right to be noisy during sex! however, if you sound like someone is stabbing you and tearing your legs off like the woman did her husband in the movie 'misery', you might wanna tone it down a few decibels. the ish is a HILARIOUS must-read to quench your sexual appetite.

bon appetit!

Source

Pleasure Fashion Spotlight: Jessica Rabbit

2009-10-31T08:39:00.001-04:00

happy halloween tootsie talkers!

ladies, last time in our fashion look, i highlighted the dominatrix as our sexual character of delight. now in the season of costumes, why dress up like a dry, four armed mummy or leatherface? i thought it'd be fitting to highlight another on of my FAVE sexual characters known to man! she's none other than JESSICA RABBIT.
jessica rabbit was a character from the novel who censored roger rabbit and the movie who framed roger rabbit? who could forget the dame on the microphone that made women want to be her and men want to bone her? her character oozed sex, with her voluptuous curves, that sexy, red pout, veronica lake-esqe hair style that covered one eye. and who could forget that RED DRESS with the uber high split and sexy stilettos?! she left a lot to the imagination (well, what was left after it burned from the dirty thoughts). and let's not forget miss rabbit was SO popular, they named the forever loved "rabbit" vibrator that debut on hbo's sex and the city some years back. some bitches are just lucky! :)

so in her honor today, i've decided to bring you a few fashion ideas you can spruce up to debut and unleash your jessica rabbit at tonight's halloween bash or your own private affair w/your man at home.

where to buy:

Dress and gloves $289: Custom Exotic Wear
http://customexoticwear.com/id14.html

Wig $45: Karen's Wig International on eBay
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=300347062744

Chanel Mademoiselle Perfume $80: Sephora
http://www.sephora.com/

Pleasure Article Spotlight: 5 Reasons Why Men Liked Being Called Daddy

2009-10-29T03:56:00.000-04:00

photo source: Naughty Tees

one thing i love about the freedom of writing an advice blog is the fact that you can bring your opinions to the table, but also discover new answers that you definitely didn't know about. i don't claim to know it all, by far. just like those that text and email me a bunch of questions for advice, i too, do the same. i always want to know more about what makes us sexually "tick".

one of the biggest questions i had as a woman is WHY men like to be called "daddy" during sex. now, for those that are going to comment and take this literally, not every person will do this. this is strictly circumstantial and generalized. however, from what I KNOW, men like it. it's one of those unwritten rules that hasn' t been clearly defined. men beat it and tell us to say it, we (ladies) do it (sometimes - ha!). sometimes if it's JUST THAT GOOD, we'll say it on our own.

now i will admit, some of us just like to be dominated in the bedroom and be that innocent girl that is being "punished". now for the sickos, it ain't a daddy-daughter relationship (nasty bastards). it's just something being faced down, ass up, your hair interlocked in between his fingers and you in mid drool and yelp screaming "daddy". well talkers, i found the answer!

today's highlight comes from an article written by blogger BlogXilla. in it, he details from a man's perspective, why on earth it titillates their senses so much. here's a sneak peek:

When it comes to sex, just call me “Daddy Long Stroke”. I’ll admit it, I love it when my lady calls me daddy during sex, and I never really had a problem getting any of my women to call me daddy during sex. But, I have noticed a lot of women say they don’t understand the phenomenon. So allow me to splain it to you. Here are 5 reasons men like to be called daddy during sex.

The James Evans Factor: Think about dads of old. Back when being a father was common in the urban community and not something to be rewarded. I think power, respect, compentence. When I think of fathers I think of a man who takes care of home. A man who protects her so good its sexy. James Evans was the type of father who you knew would beat that ass. He had a look that would send chills up your spine. So when my lady calls me daddy I feel like superman like right at that moment while I’ll all in her ribs with the manxilla. I’m her protector, I’m her super man.

Kiss My Boo Boo: Ever girl needs their daddy. So when my lady calls me daddy she’s telling me she needs me. She needs me to kiss her to make her feel better, she’s telling me she needs me to drive the manxilla deeper inside of her, to make all of her troubles go away.

All Girls Say It: Another one of the main reasons men like to be called daddy is because all girls have said this at one time or another. I think y’all know what that phrase is: “You ain’t my daddy” well now that’s not what you said last night. I know for me, once a girl says that to me, it is now my goal to make her not only call me daddy, but to make her scream it. Once she screams daddy ain’t much else she can say after that.

you can read the rest of the article here

Pleasure Position Spotlight: The Bum Lift

2009-10-28T20:37:00.006-04:00

Photo courtesy of Come As You Are

assume the position. today's pleasure position spotlight is one that i think you'll enjoy, if you do it right. today we have the bum lift.

aight so i'm sure some of you are thinking this looks easy. it is, but sometimes it doesn't take the most complicated ariel acrobatic positions to acheieve the same, if not, better results. Click here
if you want the challenging positions.

what's good about this position, ladies is it allow him to angle your pelvis forward and thrusting deeper. fellas, holding her under the boo-tay gives you the ultimate control of speed and depth with a lot less input or "help" from your partner. ladies, the best revenge is to tighten your muscles while you're this close, also. as he thrusts in, as he slides out, tighten your PC muscles like and choke his shaft! this is his timethis position is EVEN BETTER if (ladies) you wrap your legs around him. Then let him scoop under you. mmm! this allows you to get that close body-to-body friction you're yearning for.

ladies, the best thing for you to do is hold on! i gave you the best possible advice i can give you without losing that round. all in all, both parties will enjoy the closeness and appreciate the friction that sparks between you with this simple trick.

ta-ta...

Sexual Astrology: Super Sexy Scorpio

2009-10-24T15:26:00.007-04:00

photo by: Rudi Everts (Australian artist)

october 23 - november 22
hang on to y'draws! the most sexual sign of the zodiac's time has arrived! scorpios need no introduction! if you've ever found yourselves in a rendezvous with one, you KNOW the sex is nothing short of fantastic! today talkers, i bring you the sexual characteristics of the scorpio. enjoy.

male characteristics
"They say that Scorpio man is a lustful beast, wild and uncompromising in bed. No taboos, no restrictions and maximum pleasure - it's all that matters to him. As you might have noticed, Scorpio is an expert in love making and he takes it all pretty serious. So if you are not quite ready for extreme experience - just don't, as there will be no place to escape him later. Sometimes he may cross the border and treat you quite rough. Some Scorpios like to restrain their partner and act quite aggressive. Not that he is not able to stop; he doesn't want it, because nothing is more enjoyable for him than pain and sex."

female characteristics
"Be ready for a long night, guys! She may start whispering her deepest sexual fantasies, biting your ears and caressing you under your belly in the most unexpected moment. Scorpio woman will do anything to make this date unforgettable. Nobody could convince her that sex can be reduced to a number of acrobatic exercises. No doubt, she will wear the sexiest lingerie and fetish outfit being in the intimate atmosphere. She wants to experience strong feelings to its depth and nothing can stop her from fulfilling these innermost urges. Pain is not what Scorpio fears; it's more like an expression of her ultimate fantasy. This woman adores watching her partner satisfying himself and she truly can shy away any man who fell under her magnetism."

erogenous zones

the sex organs
"You shouldn' t be ingenious to find the most sensitive Scorpion's zones. The slight stroke of his penis can drive him wild. And nothing can turn him on more than oral petting."

sexual positions
"Hot-tempered Scorpio can the most insatiable lover among all Zodiac signs. His temperament is best revealed in Reverse Amazon position. He will lay his partner on his back and sit on the top facing his partner from behind. In this position his lover can stimulate his genitals while the top will be sliding along his body with breasts. Give in to Scorpio desires, he can just wear you out changing from oral stimulation to deep penetration. When he starts sexual play he likes to bite and pinch, enjoying your moaning and twisting about in pain and satisfaction. Scorpio can offer you bondage play, restraining you to the bed and playing with sensory devices. Itâ€™s better to stop, if you are not sure about his intentions, because once you are in his bed there is no way to escape from his charms."

all source information was obtained from: http://www.sex-astrology.com/

Article Highlight - "The Taste Below the Waist"

2009-10-15T20:45:00.016-04:00

i came...across this hillllllarious article written by Trixie Bethlehem-Doppelganger, Skip "The Semen King" Elsheimer, and Gerta Stern titled "Generation XXX: The Taste Below the Waist." the human body is very interesting, especially what and the way we secrete when we cum. while this is the phenomena to some, the true test is the taste. this one of five senses will determine if a man or woman will want to partake in pressing their face into your crotch. men and women have told me time and time again that they don't give head because they are afraid of what the person will taste like. this day and time, i'm not surprised.

going back to this article, Trixie, Gerta, and Skip decided to survey a number of men and women to have them describe the taste of cum. here are the hilarious responses:

"1. Females describe semen:
"Ajax cleaner"

"maybe salty"

"smells like Ajax, I no longer buy Ajax because of it. Instead I buy Mr. Clean, it's perfumed."

"thick Clorox"

"rancid Elmer's glue"

"tastes and smells like Brie cheese"

"It tastes like itself (it's kind of like asking what pepper tastes like)."

"Indescribable."

"It tasted like a thick, globby beer."

"I've discovered that although there is a general almond taste to all men -- different men taste a little differently AND depending on how much a man drinks, smokes, and what he's eating -- the semen ranges in bitterness. The less healthy he is the worst his semen tastes. Almost like Clorox at times." - shawty is a pro. ok, continue.

"It tasted quite salty."

"I cannot compare the taste to anything else I have tasted because its flavor is unique. I can compare its taste to the smell of Clorox bleach. Semen tastes like bleach smells!"

"It has different tastes for different people ranging from rotten eggs and dirty socks to a slimy/salty taste."

"Semen had a taste of its own...Sometimes it's more spicy than other times; sometimes it's sweeter. Sometimes it gives me the sensation that I just chewed on a balloon."

"Salty. It's a lot like swallowing snot."

"Kind of like salty soft snot."

"4. Males describe vaginal secretions:
"Lemony."

"Like the ocean."

"Cheerios."

"Have you ever put your tongue on the end of a battery? Like an alkaline battery."

"Like electricity, when you put a pop top from a soda can between your braces."

"Tangy."

"Like semen (salty), but better. Zesty."

"Tastes like glass."

"Whipped bananas and ginger ale."

"Similar to licking a non-bleeding wound. Sort of a salty, musty, yet sweet taste. It varies."

"Honestly I don't remember the taste. The smell was all I could think about."

"A little fishy in taste, but that could be related to the smell."

"Depending on the woman and the time of the month, there can be a slight non-salty blood taste or a tangy battery taste."

"Bitter."

"It's not so much a taste, it's a smell. Kind of like a musty armpit but not really as offensive. Actually it might taste like a musty armpit too, I'll have to check it and get back to you."

i have tears in my eyes from laughing so hard. cum typically varies from person to person. ladies, jamie foxx clowned us in one of his stand up comedies when he said (paraphrased) "you know you have a good dick sucker when she can tell you what you ate that day." for women, it's the same. depending on what our body is going through (i.e. hormone changes, PH balance) at the time of the feast, sans the yeast, depends on what we will taste like.

tootsie can't confirm what vaginal secretions taste like, but she can DEFINITELY attest that semen taste salty, with a gooey consistency. i only know because i was surprised...don't judge me 0:-)

stay tuned when i highlight ways for guys to make their semen taste and smell a little more presentable. save us women from suffering from dehydration from sodium intake.

im just kidding.

...but for real...

source: http://www.ibiblio.org/pub/electronic-publications/stay-free/10/semen.htm

Why Women Have Sex

2009-10-12T23:17:00.008-04:00

"the way to get over one man is to get under a new one"

-Carrie, Sex & the City

toots here. i had an interesting article sent to me that i thought i'd share with you. ladies, pull up a chair; men, take notes!

TIME magazine posted an article titled "Why Women Have Sex". those of us that know our sexual selves know the answer to this phenomenon. women have sex because we are tired of you asking (guys), so we just do it to shut you up, we saw a porno that turned us on so badly we wanted to compete with the big booty species in the flick, you cheated and we want to make you jealous, we have an attachment to you or hell, WE JUST WANTED SOME! there are plenty other reasons why we have sex, but i'll let TIME explain a little more.

"Both women and men have sex because they are physically attracted to the person, for pure pleasure, because they are in love, or simply because they are horny. But within the overall similarity, I'd say women's sexuality tends to be more linked with love and emotional bonding. Women, more than men, like sex when there's some kind of emotional connection. Men were more likely to have sex simply because the opportunity presented itself. Women tend to be pickier, especially for short-term sexual encounters. And men are more motivated to have sex to boost their status among their peers, although some women in our study also had sex for precisely this reason.

The most frequent reasons include: sexual attraction to the person, the desire for physical pleasure, to express affection, to express their love for a person or because they were sexually aroused and wanted release.

It's a cliché that "the good men are all taken, permanent bachelors or gay." And there's some truth to this. The number of truly desirable and available men is limited. So women are in sexual competition with other women for access to the most desirable men."
Source: Click here for the full article.

all this information is interesting, but it's not new news. we as women have known this for centuries! i believe we knew how to orgasm before men find out...but that's just my opinion. (wink). yes, we women are complex creatures. this is true. however, if we had simple minds like our counterparts, sex on our minds would look like this:

Sexual Astrology: Super Sensual Libra

2009-09-23T21:41:00.005-04:00

photo by: Rudi Everts (Australian artist)

september 23 - october 22

this month, we are celebrating the super sensual libra. libras are super sexy people that are the masters of foreplay. they love the tantric eroticism in sex. today kids, tootsie will highlight the sexual characteristics of the libra. enjoy.

male characteristics

"If your man is Libra you will never regret you managed to get in his bed. Your pleasure is the main thing for him, and he will do everything to satisfy you, even if this is going to take the whole night."

"A man Libra, as well as a woman born under this sign hate hurry. He likes long and sensual foreplay. Relax and enjoy it. He knows female anatomy, he has active erotic imagination and intuition."

"Though he is quire skinny he has a great deal of stamina. You will be satisfied and you will beg for mercy."

"Did you forget to take birth-control pill? Don't worry. He will agree to use condom, but if you don't have one he will find a good way to get pleasure without risks: mutual masturbation, oral sex or some other way to achieve orgasm."

"He likes watching erotic scenes. He likes looking at other couples -heterosexual or homosexual -making love. He likes making love in a room with mirrors as this creates an illusion of presence of some other people in the room. He might ask you to wear a mask so that to change appearance - he likes diversity."

"Libra has two scales, so people who were born under this sign often balance between two sexes - they often turn out to be bisexual."

"Since he often refuses sex (waits until he is in an appropriate mood) he likes exotic masturbation. "

female characteristics

"Libra hates hurrying and she likes slow sex. She does not like spontaneity or brutality - never suggest her having sex in a car or in a public place! She prepares for sex like for a performance - she does consider bedroom to be a stage where she plays the main role.
Before sex she takes bath with aromatic oils, dusts her belly, shaves her genitalia, gets on sexy lingerie, so she prepares very thoroughly. She creates erotic atmosphere in the room - candles, pillows, aroma lamps, beautiful sheets. She might even prepare a scenario of your night of love."

"She likes making love in a room with big mirrors. She likes it when she lies on her belly and the lover strokes her back and buttocks tenderly. Then she will turn to let him caress her breast."

"A woman who was born under this sign has strong vaginal muscles and she can use them for more satisfying sex. She can contract the muscles to envelope the penis and relaxes them when needed. Some women do that so well, that a man can cum even without intercourse."

"She likes sweeties. Apply some honey to your penis, she will like its taste. By the way, do not touch her head during oral sex - she has very sensitive head and your touches are likely to seem unpleasant to her."

"Being delighted with her body she can even turn on looking at it, so she often masturbates and does that with great pleasure."

"She is very inventive and her fantasies might shock you. She can put a silk scarf in your anus and then she will take it off when you cum or she can use a vibe on your anus while performing oral sex. She likes sex toys, sexy wear, role plays, ticklers, some fetish elements, you will never get bored with her."

erogenous zones

lower back and the buttocks
"You can easily distinguish Libra, as they have the sightliest buttocks. In the most intimate moment gently tap on their butt, tingling it archly. You can spice him up if you touch him with you nipples on the lower back."

sexual positions
"Libras are very romantic and don't need a naked eroticism. They get excited feeling the intrigue of bedroom art. A missionary position may be the best suited for Libra. The most comfortable and common way is to enjoy love making, while caressing each other in the most intimate parts. Sex for him is not a session of acrobatic poses but more an art of sensual play. When he explores your innermost curves, gently touching your breasts and stroking you with the feather you are the only one he can think about. Foreplay is his strongest point. Nobody could be so tender and perceptive to your desires and bating his partners breath in utmost ecstasy."

all source information was obtained from: http://www.sex-astrology.com/

Pleasure Fashion Spotlight: The Dominatrix

2009-09-03T17:14:00.006-04:00

she's sexy, strong, with an unmatched libido to drive any man crazy. she's dominant and submits to no one. she makes any and all men beg...on their knees, of course.

welcome back, talkers. i realize that we all have different sexual characters within us that are programmed in our DNA. for the ladies, some are sweet and shy school girls, waiting for her punishment. some are the strong sexual being, exuding the flavor and taste of sex. from that inspiration, i've decided to highlight a few sexy pieces aligned with a specific character. today's spotlight: the dominatrix.

today's highlighted pieces are the body-shaping corset, sexy, sheer thigh-high stocking, lace panties and garter, the 5-inch high heel, and of course, the red lipstick. channeling angelina jolie (circa billy bob era), each piece uses black, a symbol of strength and power. all pieces may be substituted for another (i.e. lace bra instead of corset, thigh-high boots instead of pumps). either way it goes, the dominatrix in you will be ready to tie him down to surrender.

have i sparked inspiration yet? good. now go get him...

...don't forget the black trench coat, black satin gloves, and black shades.

I Had To

2009-09-02T20:52:00.002-04:00

tootsie's advice: no cottage cheese for my lunch tomorrow.

the.end. (take it how you want it)

The Forgotten Spot

2009-09-02T20:01:00.002-04:00

for as long as i've imparted my wisdom and knowledge of sex, i've realized even Tootsie herself hasn't ~~slobbed~~ covered in detail the one forgotten spot that women forget to cover in their sexual conquest of dominating a man in the bedroom.

*pauses*

please, forgive me.

now that you're over it, i'm speaking directly to the ladies that don't mind putting her hair in a good bun or ponytail and giving her man some deep-throat, neck breaking, jaw sticking head. for all the ~~scary girls~~ ladies who don't, that's ok...just take notes anyway.

when you give your man head, do you lick his balls too? if you've answered with a rip-roaring hell yeah, then you're in great shape. however, unless you're just a freak like that, i RARELY EVER HEAR ANYONE TALK ABOUT THE PERINEUM!

to school you: men and women have this area. however, we're talking about men, in this case. it's the area UNDER a man's balls, right above his anus. there's nothing there (except if there's a forest of crispy, curly pubic hair that he refuses to shave!!!) anyway...

ladies it's just a spot, but it's uber sensitive. it's filled with nerves that will make him go crazy if touched, stroked, or licked. under all those nerves lies his prostate gland, and if you touch it right, he may scream like a bitch (haha...just playin...not really).

nevertheless, don't FORGET ABOUT THIS SPOT when treating your man to his daily/weekly/monthly/anniversary head that you give him. take your time and rub your fingers lightly across this area. if you decide to give him head, skip the dick altogether and focus on that spot alone. you want to build anticipation...not go in straight for it (unless he wants you to).

the best thing to do is tease this area (remember: make it wet) with your lips and tongue. and don't be afraid to suck on it. it's just a spot. you can double up and do the perineum and balls back and forth. once his toes crack, then go up for the shaft, and lick straight up like a lollipop to the tip, then suck. while you suck, take two fingers and rub the spot at the same time.

please don't forget to send tootsie the invite to your wedding after he proposes.

no need to thank me...you're already welcome.

Should Men Wipe it Off?

2009-09-02T11:00:00.001-04:00

i was thinking to myself the other day about the differences in men and women when it comes to their bodies and cleanliness. now ladies, we all know that men pee and shake the excess off afterwards, put it back in, zip it up, and he's done. ok *blank stare* think about the vadge for a sec. think about the time you had to go soooo bad while you were on a long road trip and had to pee on the side of the road with no tp. what did you do? you had to "shake" it until it was dry, right? did you feel clean? i should hope not! we have to wipe to get dry. so my question is: why do we think that a guy can FLING his shaft around with pee pee on the tip and think that's sufficient? hear me out...

we all know men have it a lot more simpler than we do, ladies. we've clearly come to grips with this notion. however, for all of us who give head, THINK ABOUT IT!!!! fellas, could you eat someone's pussy after she peed and just "shook" off the excess?? ok then, would it hurt to take a few pieces of tissues and just wipe off what's left?

...just a thought.

Tootsie's Talkin' - Manscaping

2009-09-01T02:38:00.001-04:00

fellas, let's rap for a second. as the Y chromosome that you are, some of you (I SAID SOME) have been ~~brainwashed~~ taught that a man is a man and he doesn't do womanly things (i.e. trim hairs, freshen down there, etc.). we as women get it. you all are so stuck in you "he-man/woman hater" thoughts that the mere thought of you even removing the hair that sprouted back in 1991 would be an ATROCITY!

guys, i have news for you: cut the b/s! there is nothing wrong with a man that wants to take care of himself. there is nothing gay about you wanting to be and smell clean. let's face it: ya'll have balls that swing and sweat. that's more keys on your rack than a woman's so you have more to...well dammit, you know what i mean!!!

then comes in "manscaping". this term is used to describe when a man shoot, shaves, cuts, or kills any hair anywhere on his body. this can be eyebrows (whatever floats your boat), ears, stomachs, etc. what tootsie is referring to today is in the pube region of your bodies.

now guys, don't think i'm trying to feminize you whatsoever. however, some women (i said SOME) would appreciate it if you could and would just "tidy" it up a lil bit down that way. i'm not sayin' get all in your crack, but tend to that forest down below! just like ya'll don't want to see fredrick douglas down there on our areas, we would rather not see him on yours neither. thanks.

on that note, imma leave you with a very WISE and obvious quote from karrine steffans:
The fact is, penises are not the prettiest or best-smelling things in the world, sometimes, and our men may need a little help with their manscaping, among other things ... like not gagging us half to death with the hair down there! Introduce him to the products and rituals that can help you be at ease down south and, soon, he'll like it too! Trimming, waxing, wipes, powder and alcohol-free scented products are a great start. Let your mate know that there is nothing feminine about taking extra special care of his special place, but also, please let him know it's not so special right after he finishes playing ball with the boys! Ugh!
Source:Mediatakeout: Brain-ology 101

Toss My Salad!

2009-08-31T21:25:00.007-04:00

toots,

imma dude with a couple questions for ya:

1) how do you toss a salad?

2) when is it the right time to toss a girl's salad?

and bonus

3) do you think a girl should toss a guy's salad?

mmm...good question there young feller! wonder why no one has asked this question yet!!! well a sista is here to help you out.

for those that are ~~slow~~ unaware of what salad tossing is, here it be:

to be blunt and nasty in a nice way, it's when someone licks or eats out your boo-tay hole with their tongue. then there what's called a "rim job" in which someone licks around the anal area. *note: for the sake of everyone keeping their lunches, i'll refrain from telling you what the term "salad tossing" means in jail. ::devilish grin with a ping:: :-D*

fella, if you eat pussy, you can eat ass...plain and simple. there's a line, there's an entrance, lick around it, tease it, etc. now, the ass is special b/c the nerves around the anal area are more highly sensitive than you think. brother, just because your washcloth and charmin rubs up against it doesn't mean a tongue will feel the same way ::shivers::

NOW, WHEN you should do it is a VERY sensitive subject. you know better than to lick any pussy that purrs your way, so imagine an ass. the ass MUST be clean...and sometimes, even a good scrub IMO is not enough. a good enema, a good grief i-washed-my-ass wash in full effect, and an open mind will do. everything else will be fair game.

as far as a woman tossing a man's salad, that's solely up to the consenting parties. i have no problem with it. i don't suggest a woman SURPRISE her man when he's bending down drying off his ankles out the shower and ::BAM:: you go in for the kill. it's something the two need to talk about first...however if you're just too drunk to talk, hell why not...

SURPRISE!! :)

this is my two ¢ents of the day.

Pleasure Reading Spotlight: The Vixen Manual

2009-08-26T14:00:00.000-04:00

yeah talkers, she's back! the self-proclaimed "video vixen" aka superhead aka karrine steffans released her third book the vixen manual: how to find, seduce, & keep the man you want. i can't lie: i bought the book the DAY it was released. i'm nosy...sue me.

the vixen manual is a book written with a number of stories, metaphors, and vixen tips about RELATIONSHIPS & SEX. i. kid. you. not. karrine steffans is giving us women relationship advice. now, she doesn't claim to be this self-professed angel that knows it all. she wants people to learn from her mistakes and misfortunes and learn what NOT to do. she said it, i'm just reiterating.

not only that, she gives an in depth look at her FAVE sex positions. now ya'll know there had to be a catch to this pleasure spotlight item. she all told us how she can make a man cum in 3.4 seconds flat (ok, i'm exaggerating...5.7) from giving them head. ladies, we all saw what happened w/mr. marcus. *wink*

nevertheless, i read it and i have to give superhead her props: the bitch got it together. i had a smug look on my face when i bought the book and a raised eyebrow when i started reading. by the time i finished the first chapter, i was speechless. competent and on point. WE ALL could learn things from this book.

you can read chapter 1 here:

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31851977

as far as the sex, she gives details on giving head, riding, and how to make anal sex painless (see toot'd up ass photo below). now this book isn't full of sexcapades, with nut-on-chin details might i add. hell, you don't even get to the sex until the middle of the book! superhead is married now!

overall, i enjoyed it. for $27.99, i'd better! the book will definitely make you think about what you do for your man. you can grab the vixen manual in your local barnes & noble™ store.

There's no business like HO business

2009-08-25T19:40:00.005-04:00

"It's not just sex -- it's an adventure."

-- Dennis Hof, owner and operator of the Moonlite Bunny Ranch

move over hef! in come dennis "big d" hof. that's right! dennis hof is the founder of the nevada whorehouse the moonlite bunny ranch. celebrating its 55th anniversary in business, "america's cathouse" is one of nevada's biggest tourist adult attraction loaded with women that are the "fast food" business of sex. whatever tickles your pickle, these girls do it. parties, orgies, blow jobs, three somes, tantric sex, phone sex, fantasy and fetish. you name the deed, they name the price. man or woman, skinny or fat, no one too old. want to have a father-son night out on the town? take a trip to the bunny ranch and have a foursome!

featured on HBO™, the bunny ranch reality series features interviews, phone convos, and negotiations with various bunnybabes at "work". one example was a 59 year old woman that was sent to the ranch by her HUSBAND. her husband wasn't able to get it up or please her anymore, so he said before he sent to her to another man, he'd send her to a woman. and she did just that! nothing shocks the hookers in the moonlite bunny ranch.

you MUST check this out! it is CRAZY how these women live, eat, and breathe sex 24-7, 365 days a year! check 'em out at http://www.bunnyranch.com/ for more information, to book your girl, or check your local listings on HBO™.

source: facts and information can be obtained from http://www.bunnyranch.com

Did you miss me???

2009-08-25T19:33:00.004-04:00

stop what you're doing: tootsie is back!! i've taken a lil time off to let the creative juices flow (and flow they did!). i'm back to bring you some new discoveries. from books, to hookers, to toys, to gripes, i have a lot of fun-filled orgasmic things to share!

strap yourselves in that sex swing and get ready to RIDE. ;)

Sex & the Sexless in the City

2009-07-13T15:42:00.002-04:00

while on twitter, i had a follower that uploaded a very interesting article regarding the most satisfied cities and sex...hmm. intrigued by sex factoids and who clearly ain't gettin' none, i decided to take a peek. here's the low down on what's down below:

trojan brand condoms by StrategyOne conducted a survey to 1000 men and women, ages 18 and up to see what cities has the most sex +in america, along with the most sexually satisfied. *side note* ladies and gents: just b/c you are having sex, DON'T NOT <---that's what i meant--- mean that you are sexually satisfied. pretty sure this is not 100% accurate, but nevertheless, here's what they found out:

 Sexual Frequency by City (per year):



 1. Houston           101
 2. Atlanta            88
 3. Washington D.C.    86
 4. Los Angeles        82
 5. New York           80
 6. Boston             79
 7. Chicago            73
 8. Dallas/Ft. Worth   73
 9. Philadelphia       73
 10. San Francisco      60

 Rates of Sexual Satisfaction by City:

 1. Atlanta           73%
 2. New York          71%
 3. Houston           70%
 4. Dallas/Ft. Worth  67%
 5. Chicago           66%
 6. Los Angeles       66%
 7. Washington D.C.   65%
 8. Philadelphia      64%
 9. San Francisco     63%

 10. Boston            60%

Houston residents have the most sex per year by a large
margin, with residents reporting having sex 101 times annually. Atlanta
ranks second in sexual frequency (88 times per year), while San Franciscans
report having the least sex (60 times per year). Philadelphia, Dallas-Fort
Worth and Chicago all report the second lowest rates of sexual activity at
73 times per year.

source: http://www.nj.com/business/prnewswire/index.ssf?/cgi-bin/stories.pl?ACCT=NJ&STORY=/www/story/07-01-2009/0005053593&EDATE=Jul+1,+2009

this survey just shows that the dirty south is DEF living up to its name. this concludes our factoid of the day. proceed.

About Trojan(R)

 TROJAN(R) Brand Condoms are America's #1 condom and have been trusted
for over 90 years. TROJAN(R) Brand Latex Condoms are made from premium
quality latex to help reduce the risk of unwanted pregnancy and sexually
transmitted infections. Every condom is electronically tested to help
ensure reliability. There are over 29 varieties of TROJAN(R) Brand Condoms.
More Americans trust the TROJAN(R) brand than any other condom. For more
information, visit http://www.trojancondoms.com.

*tootsie.talk is not an official endorser of trojan. we just highly support 'em*

Pleasure Reading Spotlight: Just F*ck Me!

2009-07-12T15:00:00.010-04:00

ay! i ain't write the book, but uh, i clearly agree. society has this watered down image that all women are delicate flowers and all we want during sex is gentle motions of the 7 oceans, candles, and warm body oils. while that's all fine for a special occasion, a woman by the name of eve kingsley thought it best to write the book "just f*ck me! what women want men to know about taking control in the bedroom."

the book goes into detail about how it's really the MAJORITY of women that like to be f*cked, not vice versa. now fellas, we ain't say come off like mr. raper man (shabba!), but we DO want you to be men and take control like you know what the hell you're doing. it also outlines HOW to do it (preach sista, preach on.) here is a description:

"You're the Man... Act Like One!" Look, I know you're not a mind reader, so I'm going to be blunt... The majority of women like to be fucked. And I mean really fucked. Yes, the media has lied to you. Sure, there are some women that want to lay on their backs, look into your eyes, and gently rock back and forth, but most of us want you to channel the power of the Sun through your penis and give us a good, solid pounding. Act like you want it, for God's sake! In this book, I'm going to lay out exactly what the majority of women want and show you exactly how to give it to them. I've got a section just for you and one for your female partner, so you can feel 100% comfortable letting loose on her vagina in the way she's secretly craving. Some of the topics we'll cover... The Alpha Male - It's more than just being an ex-fratboy douchebag, who still thinks he's on the high school football team. I'll clue you in. Dirty Talk - Trust me, she wants it. If she didn't, she'd fuck a mime. Speaking of, did you know Marcel Marceau was divorced three times? Enough said. Role Playing - How she really feels about pretending to be the babysitter, a whore, and a student looking for a little "extra credit." I'll take you through the top 11 Alpha Male fantasies...including one so controversial, I can't even mention it here. The Art of Being Assertive - Sack up and take control! What to do...and what not to do. Sexual Communication - Both you and your partner have needs and good communication, both verbal and non-verbal, is crucial when it comes to getting them on the table. I'll show you how to communicate "Alpha Male Style." You'll learn what to say...and how to say it. Now that I've got you all hyped up and extremely aware of the need to please your woman, let's go about succeeding at it. Let's get down to brass tacks. What are you waiting for? Buy the book already! Eve Kingsley is a feminist writer based in San Francisco. She teaches couples how to push the boundaries of a sexual relationship to create new levels of honesty, intimacy, and trust.
source: http://www.amazon.com/Just-Fuck-Me-Control-Bedroom/dp/0981803989/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1247425982&sr=8-1

so yeah, there you have it. go out and get your copy! you can scoop at amazon.com fellas, please don't be shame. ladies, don't laugh just yet: i'm VERY sure there are many things men want us to know things to (i.e. how to suck a dick), but that's for another post.

ta-ta

Hot Sex Facts!

2009-07-11T23:13:00.000-04:00

photo and source: http://www.javno.com/en-lifestyle/hot-facts_62272

pop your popcorn talkers...tootsie has come across some interesting, unusual, and fun-ny sex facts. i found these facts on www.javno.com sit back and enjoy.

prepare to laugh your ass off.

Did you know that rats make love about 20 times a day?

Sex is the best and safest way to relax, its effect is 20 times as strong as valium’s.

For every web page with “normal” content, there are five of them with pornographic content.

In terms of biochemistry, sex has the same effect on the body as eating too much chocolate.

Beards grow faster on men who have sexual intercourse on a regular basis.

Male bats have the highest homosexuality rate among mammals.

Formicophilia is a fetish that involves having small insects crawl over one’s genitals.

Ithyphallophobia is the fear of watching and thinking about erect penises.

There are men in Guam whose job is to travel across the country and sleep with virgins, who pay them for the privilege of giving them the first sexual intercourse.

In Hong Kong, a woman whose husband cheats on her has the legal right to kill him, but she is only allowed to use her bare hands.

A Greek who is unfaithful to his wife would sometimes be punished by having his pubic hair removed in public and having a huge radish inserted in his rectum.

In India, it is cheaper to pay for a prostitute than it is to buy a condom.

Sex burns 360 calories per hour.

Women who read romance novels make love twice as many times as those who do not read them.

An average person spends two weeks of his or her life kissing.

A brand of condoms was named after pharaoh Ramses, who had more than 160 children.

On average, men think about sex every seven seconds.

The woman who holds the record in the number of children gave birth to 69 of them.

The youngest parents in the world were eight and nine and they lived in China around the year 1910.

25 percent of women think that money makes men sexier.

Some lions mate as many as 50 times a day.

Humans, bonobos apes and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.

Those who get caught mastrubating in Indonesia are faced with the penalty of decapitation.

120 million sexual intercourses “occur” in the world every day.

The orgasm of a pig lasts 30 minutes.

85 percent of men who died of heart failure during intercourse turned out to have been cheating on their wives.

Research shows that shoes and feet are the biggest fetish object in the western world.

A minute’s kiss burns 26 calories.

Only 17 percent of women have an orgasm during intercourse.

A research by sex shop owners shows that the most popular flavour of edible underwear is – cherry.

Flicks and Foreplay

2009-07-07T20:19:00.005-04:00

tootsie,

your site is great! thanks for all the informative articles. i have a question for your site:

my boyfriend is into trying new things, but i am just getting into the swing of things with sex (i.e. different positions, open with who i am sexually). he's now talking about wanting to watch pornos with me, maybe even do what they do. i am so embarrassed. i dont want to be a prude and run him away, but come on! pornos? what you think?

aww! thanks for the love. 'preciate that, 'preciate that. now, to your question...

i feel you on being a lil embarrassed. sometimes you may not be comfy with some things your dude might suggest...HOWEVER...(listen up), this is a prime opportunity to COMMUNICATE what you're feeling to him. healthy sex starts with good and open communication.

my question to you is: are you SURE you don't want to do this or are you curious and just embarrassed. if you are the former, then tell ole boy "no" and that be that. if it's the latter, which i have a feeling it is, here's a few things to consider:

pornos are pretty much there for viewing pleasure...to get off, in other words. feelin' frisky and don't feel like "imagining" what's being done...you pop in a porno. viola!

pornos is for fantasy purposes, sweetheart. don't feel like you have to compete. under all that silicone, weave, and body makeup is a person trying to reach the same peak you are.

my advice: try it. talk to him about it, but see how you respond to it. it's obviously something he wants to share with you, so just sit back and watch. just a lil "umph" to make your horny, in a nutshell.

email me back and let me know how it turns out...or he turns you out. whichever works.

Pleasure Item Spotlight: TROJAN® Ultra Ribbed, Magnum, & Her Pleasures ECSTASY™

2009-06-23T20:06:00.000-04:00

tootsie here with a new product out on the market. Trojan's at it again, and this time, they claim this new design "lets you feel the pleasure , not the condom." well alrighty then! let's get to it. today's item spotlight is: TROJAN® Ultra Ribbed ECSTASY™.

named ecstacy, this condom comes fully loaded with all the trimmings and fixin's you need to get nasty without getting burned. here's a review from http://www.trojancondoms.com about the Ultra Ribbed:

UltraSmooth™ Premium Lubricant inside and out for a more natural feel
Comfort shape allows freedom of movement for a more natural experience
Deep ribs at base and end to increase stimulation
Tapered at the base for a secure fit
Made from Premium Quality Latex – to help reduce the risk
Each Condom is Electronically Tested – to help ensure reliability

i haven't tried these myself, but just making you all aware of the new-new. i don't know how i feel about anything ribbed other than a big piece of bbq on my plate. anything with bullets, buttons, rivets, nails, claws, or anything else done to my condom makes my walls cringe. i can confirm that the UltraSmooth™ Premium Lubricant is NO JOKE! it's really smooth and stays lubed, even with an ample amount of friction, so all ya'll ruff ryders can keep bouncing without applying extra anything.

the ecstacy line also comes in magums and her pleasures. my gripe with these: only 10 comes in the box for the same price for 12!

Talk Dirty To Me!

2009-06-22T13:08:00.000-04:00

ladies, let's talk. over time, i've learned that men are not only visual creatures, but they are auditory as well. don't believe me? blindfold your man and turn on a porn...BETCHA bottom dollar he gets aroused. my point is, men like to confirmation that he's putting down the BIZ-NAZZ in the bedroom. now, if he ain't doin' nuthin' but causin' friction and doin' a bunch of heavy breathing, then no point in faking it. on the other hand, trust just like we can't stand a whole heap of talkin' from men, they don't want it overdone either. learn when the time is right and learn when to stfu. ballgame. so ladies, saddle up and straddle down...it's time to talk dirty!

ask him what he wants to do to you. ask him how he wants it. men like to be in charge, so i'm sure he'll like to tell you where and how he wants it.

also, men like direction as well. don't be afraid! whisper what you want to do to him or tell him what you want and how YOU want it. men like when you know what you want!

source http://www.dirtytalkguide.com has a few examples you can use today! check it:

Just go up to your man the moment you can and gently whisper a handful of your favorite ones into his ear and watch what happens.

1 - "I love the way you kiss me...especially when you kiss me there!"
2 - "I want to get naked with you right now"
3 - "Do you like the way that feels?"
4 - "Use your mouth on me."
5 - "I love the things you do with your tongue."
6 - "You're so damn gorgeous."
7 - "Want to see what I really want? Come closer..."
8 - "Tell me what you want."
9 - "This is going to be the dirtiest night of your life."
10 - "It drives me crazy when you look at me that way..."
11 - "You taste so good."
12 - "Come over here and ride me hard."
13 - "Your wish is my command."
14 - "I want to feel those sweet lips all over me."
15 - "I'm going to suck you like a lollipop"

His eyes will stand still, his jaw will drop slightly and he'll start to breathe heavy. source: http://www.dirtytalkguide.com

ready to chat?

Gotta question? Tootsie's here to answer it!

2009-06-20T15:23:00.000-04:00

send all inquiries to...

tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com

Tootsie's Advice: Don't Always Stick and Move

2009-06-19T14:04:00.000-04:00

picture source: http://www.scienceblogs.com

fellas, just like i get on the ladies, i have to get on ya'll too. only reason i do it is because i want everyone to be aware of their sexual selves. just like we want to be pleased, so does the other party. and getting pleased won't come with an "a-ha!" moment; it comes from reading, asking questions, and getting sound advice to take. today's advice is: don't always stick and move.

guys, [majority] of women typically gripe about men's ability to get aroused, and we haven't even taken the turkey out to thaw, if you get my drift. to make it simple: women are like cars, you can't drive em unless you warm it up first! YOU may be ready, but she's not. and to add insult to injury, just because we are wet doesn't mean we are ready neither! ::lends shoulder:: please proceed to cry.

men, erase WHATEVER your homeboys told you about this. totally. women are definitely mental creatures, so sexually, we have to be handled a little differently. we can be attracted to you all day, but if our minds aren't there, then you're wasting your time. prepare to have sex with her body, but not her. she won't be there (see female monkey above in the picture). you start stickin' and movin', it won't be as wet and yes, she'll scream...from PAIN because it's not as wet as its potential.

"what should i do?", you ask? TAKE YOUR TIME. now, i understand there are times you want to rip her clothes off, but ay, if it comes to that, get her to the point where you are. lick on her body, touch those spots that you know will drive her crazy. and PLEASE, don't go STRAIGHT for grabbin' the P...please! make your way to it. drive her crazy to the point where she MAKES you or BEGS you to touch it. then fellas, break down: you're gonna have go and eat it. yep. now all women don't like this, but i can assure you that majority of us do, and this will get her good and ready. why? her body knows that when A happens, B will occur. her body knows that it will lead to orgasm, therefore releasing the endorphins she needs to change her mood.

when you eat it, TAKE-YOUR-TIME. omg...i can't stress this enough. start soft...no, softer than that...NO...softer than that. almost like a feather. when you feel or hear her getting more excited, speed it up, but keep it soft still. start putting a little more force little by little. if you do it, you won't have the response you want.

now if you bring her to cum is up to you. usually we just want it to where our body tells us it's time. sometimes we want you to make us cum. you be the judge on that. point is: don't just start grabbing and groping unless we want to as well! we have to be handled differently.

man up and do it right! thanks. :)

REPOST! TUTORIAL: HOW TO JOIN TOOTSIE TALK!

2009-06-18T17:31:00.002-04:00

I AM REPOSTING THIS TUTORIAL FOR THOSE THAT AREN'T SURE HOW TO JOIN TOOTSIE.TALK.

hey, hey, hey! love the site? find yourself checking for updates on articles? i know b/c you all email, call, and text me frequently about tootsie!! thanks for the l♥ve!

for those of you that answered "yes", i have put together a step-by-step tutorial on how to join as a certified "tootsie talker". your current email using Google (gmail), AIM, Yahoo!, or OpenID is used! that's it! :) don't worry about anyone seeing this. you can make up a screen name and no one will know it's you. your business stays with you!

here's how to do it:

1. on the right of the page, you will see "join as a tootsie talker"

2. click the "follow" button

3. the next page will give you a choice whether to sign in with your Google (Gmail), AIM, Yahoo!, or OpenID account.

4. i used the example from the tootsie google account for this tutorial. enter your email address and password and click "sign in"

5. the next page will allow you to create a screen name, upload a photo (optional), and to follow.

*YOU MUST CLICK FOLLOW PUBLICLY TO OFFICIALLY JOIN AND MAKE COMMENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!*

*YOUR INFORMATION IS NOT STORED WITH TOOTSIE.TALK. ALL INFORMATION AND DATA IS STRICTLY FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE*

after you're finished, click "follow this blog"

6. congratulations!! you will officially be a tootsie.talker!

7. under "join as a tootsie talker" category, you will see your screen name you set. from here, you can change your settings and sign out. no one will know if you are online! you are also able to make comments on posts!

HAVE A QUESTION?

Email all inquiries at tootsietalk@gmail.com

Superman Dat Hoe! (Now Watch me SKEET)

2009-06-17T12:56:00.000-04:00

as i was rummaging through the radio to find a decent tune to drive to, i came upon an old joint that used to get em all bouncin': Soulja Boy's Crank Dat (Superman). We all know the story of how he became famous with this song, we all know the dance, hell, we even had 77 versions of it on youtube with our children's cartoon characters and entertaining personalities. however, has anyone REALLY sat down and EXPLAINED to you what "Superman'n" really means?

i decided to poll a few friends to see if they knew what it meant. to my surprise, NO ONE knew what it meant, but sure as hell knew how to leap and yuleeeeeeeeee. tootsie's here to explain to you what this two year old song REALLY means. let's go to school.

Superman dat hoe is simply this: when a girl is asleep, the guy cums on her back and sticks a sheet to it. leaving it to dry, it sticks to her, when she awakes and stands up, the sheet creates a "cape" and therefore, he has SUPERMAN'd or SUPERSOAK'd DAT HOE. :-|

so next time ya'll bounce to this track, remember these words: Skeet-Skeet!

Broken Manhood

2009-06-16T21:34:00.000-04:00

okay so me and my girls were having girl-talk and one told me that a man can break his d*ck! what!!! is this true?!

sweetie, come sit next to me. the answer is YES! a man can break his penicular part. here's how:

if a guy is thrusting too hard and fast, he can hit your pubic BONE and break it. also, if you're riding him wild and crazy, with no type of concern for what you're doing, you can break the darn thing also.

while there is no "penis bone", as you can see in the picture, it CAN snap and break, creating a snap-like sound or 'pop' that will turn his penis black and blue, causing immense pain.

so there ya have it. your girlfriend was right. be careful on the rough sex...the both of you!

How to define a healthy sex life

2009-06-15T17:22:00.000-04:00

tootsie,

what does it mean to have a "healthy sex life"?

having a healthy sex life has a few different qualities to it. here are a few:

-a mutual respect for the other, before sex and after sex
-both parties are pleased, sexually with the guts to tell the other what they do and don't like
-TRUST!!! have trust to share about past and even current sexual experiences HONESTLY and OPENLY, and the ability to listen to the other without judging
-getting tested every 3-6 months TOGETHER for HIV and yearly for STD's

these are just a few things you can use to measure whether you and your partner have a healthy sexual relationship. this is definitely key because this prevents anything surprises later on down the line, etc. it's good to be open about things from the get-go.

that's tootsie's take...now go be healthy!

WTF!! Go Girl?!

2009-06-14T15:17:00.002-04:00

ladies, don't you hate when you are on a long road trip and you have to pee, but there's no rest stop in sight? chances are you either opted for the next gas station, infested with anthrax and the swine flu in the bathrooms or the good ole squat-in-the-bush. NEVER FEAR! some "genius" decided to help us out and created the GoGIRL.

the GoGIRL is basically a funnel they painted PINK and you put your hoo-hah in it and pee, so your whiz creates a stream like a man. so instead of squatting and trying to aim and not peeing all over yourself (i.e. legs, thighs, toilet seat, etc.), you stand like a man. and...and! for those that like accessories with your funnel, it comes with a few sheets of toilet paper, so you can wipe. aww, gee thanks!

o-k, idk how ya'll feel about this, but i'm not to hip on this concept. while it is a cool thought to not have to squat your twat and tinkle, my mind just can't fathom standing and wheeing in a funnel that i can tuck away in my purse. idk...maybe ya'll can help me. how do you feel about this?

you can check out GoGIRL at http://www.go-girl.com and a review at http://www.inkkc.com/article/5400&pt=WTF?-GoGirl.

Sex + My Period = Is it safe?

2009-06-13T20:56:00.004-04:00

toots,

my man and i were having a convo about having sex during my period. he's ok with it, but i'm not too sure about it. is this safe? i'm not too comfy with the idea of bleeding everywhere during sex. help me out!

sweetie, sex during your cycle is definitely safe. when it may be frowned upon with certain people, scientifically there's no link to any harm with the act. actually sex during your cycle can ease pms symptoms when you have an orgasm. why? orgasms releases endorphins, mood enhancers, that can help with cramps, headaches, and other issues we have during this time.

to help you out, if you and your boo wanna try it, the BEST position to do during this time is have your on your stomach, flat, and have him either
a) lie on top of you and enter your and grind it out
or
b) enter you while on his knees, you still on your stomach

lying on your stomach will decrease any chances of any blood going everywhere. also, a lot of lube, a dark towel under your crotch, and a dark room will be your friend also. whatever you do, make sure it's dark!! :-|

have fun. :)

Pleasure Reading Spotlight: Sextrology

2009-05-28T13:28:00.000-04:00

anybody an astrology junkie? love sex? well, you're in luck! sexperts starsky & cox came up with a FABULOUS book for all the sex savvy, sexually curious, and astrology driven folks that love reading about their characteristic sun sign in a naughty way. today's spotlight reading is: sextrology. sextrology is one of my favorite books in my collections. i dare you to check it out!

combining the astrological sun signs (shouts to all my aquarians) and all the quirky things that make you tick within your birth chart and sexual preference, starsky & cox give you an in-depth look at things that turn you off, turn you on, your sexual combos with other signs, and more! i promise, it is DEF worth the money! here are what some others had to say about it:

"Sextrology is extensively researched, and wonderfully dirty" -- O The Oprah Magazine

"This new book blows the lid on the zodiac's erotic penchants!" -- The Sunday Times of London

"A word-of-mouth phenomenon...a genuinely new take on the planet’s oldest pastime. Thank your lucky stars." -- Time Magazine

you can buy sextrology at: http://www.amazon.com/Sextrology-Astrology-Sexes-Starsky-Cox/dp/0060586311/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1243304815&sr=8-1

Pleasure Item Spotlight: Trojan Magnums Thin

2009-05-27T16:48:00.002-04:00

good golly miss molly!! aight, yes...i know it has been a minute, but believe me when i tell you i always come back with treats to give you, right? exactly! so auntie tootsie wasn't gonna leave ya hangin'! i got a lil treat to share with you!

so i have many readers that say they love trojan™ magnum condoms in the infamous "golden" or "black and white" packaging for those horse measured cocks out there. however, i have others, including myself, that like the lengthy size, but can't stand how THICK the darn thing is. feels like they cut the finger of a rubber glove and shoved that bad boy in a wrapper and said "hey, wear this!" well, for those of you with men hung like a horse, but can't stand that rubberish feeling, trojan™ now has magnums that are THIN!!!! ::screams like i'm dying:: yes girl! mmm hmm and uhhh huh!!

trojan™ magnum THIN is still resevior tipped also is infused with ultrasmooth™ lubricant for an easy glide. you can buy trojan™ magnum THINs at your local pharmacy everywhere.

now, miss tootsie has taken these for a test run, and i can ASSURE YOU that you can't get 'em for false advertising! when i they say THIN, they friggin' mean it!! i bet you'll keep checking to make sure it's on...because it looks just that thin! i am still a #1 fan of trojan's™ herpleasures, but these are definitely added to the list of "gots to get its" as well. these are a "go get 'em" in my book. i've only had one instance of it drying out, which typically happens all the time with the regular magnums when too much friction is caused.

want to feel that "closeness" of wearing next to nothing, but staying smart by protecting yourselves? try this...i dare ya! ;)

Oral Sex Candy?

2009-05-26T10:01:00.000-04:00

what kind of candies, gums, mints, etc. are good for teasing while sucking d***? ice always melts too fast.

yeah, ice is just one of those things that are good for viewing purposes. it's great to have, but truthfully it doesn't last long. here are a few things i've found that should help you out, honey.

sweeten'd blow is easy to use and comes in vanilla, bubble gum, peppermint, and raspberry flavors. this is a unisex product that's used by rubbing it on your partner's area o'love and licking it off.the name alone is hilarious to me. PETER LICKER is a tasty gel that can be used as a lube. comes in big banana and wild cherry flavors.
no, i have NOT gone crazy...you see right. LISTERINE. here's a lil trick you can use if you are on a budget. rinse your mouth out with listerine. i say use this one b/c it's typically the strongest mouthwash. but the sensation of the mint flavor from your mouth to his weiner will send him to the moon...or just baying at the moon like a coyote instead.

and lastly, ALTOIDS!! it's every freaky freak's secret. these are very strong, will make your nose run and sinuses clear, but HONEY, suck on this then suck on THAT. he'll love you for it!

Pleasure Reading Spotlight + WTF + Sexual Rambling : Position of the Day Playbook

2009-05-25T23:17:00.011-04:00

ok...

i try to bring you a lil this and that to add to your private collections that will spice up what you got goin' on in the bedroom. in NO WAY will i hate on those that see sex as a time to work on their flexibility and acrobatic skills, but at the end of the day, you are trying to aim in ONE PLACE...however you twist and turn to get in that position is your business, but there are CERTAIN limits to your aim. let me explain.

iVillage did an article called 7 Outrageous Sex Positions, highlighting the book Position of the Day: Playbook. (source: http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,q7xm,00.html) i looked at the 7 and lemme tell you, my mind started to rant and ramble. here's what i think about it:

the rickshaw
what in THEE HELL kind of concoction is this?! some horny teenagers with some bad azz control came up with this, b/c lemme tell you how i don't trust NO MAN to cock his legs like this, first of all and expect him NOT to ricochet me into next week when he busts a nut. no thanks. i value my life.

the happy landing :-| maybe you can and you can say i'm hatin' all day, but my ass is too heavy & too old to be jumpin' up and FALLIN' on the D! what?! are you serious?! and i'm supposed to just LAND on the thing perfectly?! what are we tryna prove here?? the only place we'll be landing happily is in a hospital.

the slinkyum do ya'll own rocking chairs?! and if you do and you aren't 77 and own a porch, why?! i can't do this ish off a regular chair, so whose bright idea was it to think i'd be comfy takin' it it this angle and position?! give me some carpet burns ANYDAY over having splinters in my spleen and crotch!

the stick shift

what is WITH these positions where the dude is mad flexible?! can any guy you know put his leg that far back? know what, never mind.

he needs to lay that leg down and maybe we'll be in business...

the three o'clock appointmentnow this one was pretty decent, except they missed a key accessory when drawing this out...a table or BED for her back to be on. is she having sex with criss angel?! is he a magician?! some ppl lack imagination! help us out here!

yin yangWHY ARE HIS LEGS UP?! man, no!! this looks like a 69 gone the wrong way!

rock a thigh babyok, is he an acrobat for the ringling brothers?! i know if i get on it like this, he's gonna break his legs and my neck from making me fall over! and for real, my thighs alone can choke a bear...am i tryna cum or torture him? and again with the rocking chair...smh

alright, i'm done. thoughts?

Pleasure Item(s) Spotlight: Clone A Willy!

2009-05-12T21:48:00.010-04:00

ever heard of that saying, "if i had his d***, i'd put in the freezer and save it for hard times", and the crowd falls over in side splitting laughter. well no longer will you have to give those vadge wall frostbite! you can now make a mold of your man's willy, with...well, clone-a-willy!

i'd heard of these before, but these particular ones give every woman what they love to have: OPTIONS!!! it's like, "what mood am i in? let's see what to wear!" clone-a-willy gives you six different molds to choose from!

clone-a-willy, retailing at $40, the kits come in light tone, medium tone, & chocolate tone (yum! ok, but for real: don't eat it!) so you have one for every outfit! then there's also clone-a-willy glow-in-the-dark kit (blacklights unite!), candle kit (yes! your man's wanger could be burning on your night stand), & lastly, there's a kit for SOAP!! no, i'm serious. A soap replica lookin' at you in the shower, with one eye.

the kit comes with complete materials to make an exact replica of what impression is left in the tube. if your tips aren't clipped, too big or too small, etc., you can do it! the rubber substance used to make the mold is safe for skin.

fellas, for those that want to immortalize your sh*t or for those ladies that need some self entertainment for those lonely nights (or nights he's gettin' on your nerves), clone a willy is for you!!! :)

you can buy clone-a-willy at:
http://www.cloneawilly.com/
*also check the site for actual pictures of finished molds*

Pleasure Position Spotlight: Inverted Rear Entry

2009-05-08T09:37:00.002-04:00

work the middle, work the middle

(change positions)

new position, new position, new position

stroke it for me, stroke it for me...

-rock the boat by the late aaliyah

today class, we have the inverted rear entry position (see picture above). this position is and can be a lot of fun to do with your partner, and very rewarding when distriubuting orgasms.

!detrats teg s'tel...
(read it backwards, dufus)

easiest way to do this is for you, miss ma'am, is to straddle the d backwards, sitting up, so your back is facing him. now guide yourself back so your back is on his chest. fellas, i hope you're in shape b/c you will be the one in control. now don't get me wrong: the sistas can work from this position also.

ladies, this is a good time to have practiced your kegels exercises beforehand, b/c you are bound to have "slippage" (meaning, his wang could slide out), so squeeze those walls tight!

basically he gets the "p" and beats it down til you bark like a beagle...

Pleasure Reading Spotlight: How to Live with a Huge Penis

2009-05-07T23:44:00.001-04:00

How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much

by Dr. Richard Jacob & Rev. Owen Thomas

*cracks knuckles*

well, here i am again, bringing you another sumthin' sumthin' to stimulate your head with some wise knowledge. you always hear people say READING IS funDAMENTAL...where, here ya go!

while i was browsing in urban outfitters the other day (great place for style and books, btw), i stumbled along this book here: How to Live with a Huge Penis.

for the inquiring minds that wanna know, this book subjects men with OMG...you know: OVERSIZED MALE GENITALIA...or OH MY GAWD...take your pick.

product description:

This hilarious self-help parody is full of compassionate advice for men afflicted with Oversized Male Genitalia (OMG).Far too often, these men are banished to the fringes of society, victims of their own freakish length and girth. But Dr. Richard Jacob and Rev. Owen Thomas are here with a message of tolerance and hope, along with hilarious advice on 'coming out' to your family, sharing your assets with a partner, and avoiding injury in the workplace. Complete with a daily affirmations journal and inspiring quotes from leading self-help experts, "How to Live with a Huge Penis" will send an uplifting message to men around the world.
source: http://www.amazon.com/How-Live-Huge-Penis-Meditations/dp/1594743061

you can buy the book online at:
http://www.amazon.com/How-Live-Huge-Penis-Meditations/dp/1594743061

happy reading talkers! enlighten yourselves...

Tootsie Apologizes

2009-05-07T23:18:00.002-04:00

tootsie talkers,

i apologize for leavin' y'folks hanging. i've been uber busy, plus i've been away on travel. please accept my most sincere apologies...now get over it...

time to talk again! :)

please check back daily to get your quick fix. i have a number of posts i've been workin' on to present. keep the comments and suggestions coming!!

be TALKIN' with you soon...

-tootsie.

Sexual Rambling II: Tootsie's "WTF" Moment...

2009-04-25T02:40:00.004-04:00

talkers,

from time to time, my inquiring mind gets to going and gears get to turning to find out some of the most bizarre and funny sex articles around the world to bring to you. in my search, i found ONE so crazy, i think i bit off more than i can chew (pun intended), and therefore, made tootsie's first WTF moment...read below:

"PENIS BITE Cheating husband's manhood chewed off "
"A raging Russian woman has bitten off the penis of her cheating husband. Katya Kharitovonova awoke after a bout of heavy drinking to find her friend Liza performing a sex act on her husband, Mikhail. Furious Katya (36) grabbed a nearby lamp and smashed it over Liza’s head before biting off Mikhail’s manhood. Liza was treated for severe concussion while Mikhail’s penis was stitched back together by doctors. Katya now faces two years in a labour camp prison."

SOURCE: BILD.com

http://www.bild.de/BILD/news/bild-english/home/regularieninhalte/world-sex-news-ticker/hot-erotic-news/2009/03/27/hybrid-sex-toy-injures-woman.html

o-k...WTF lady!!! listen, and listen well...

i am, by far, no fan of infidelity of any kind, lemme just say that, first and foremost. i also don't condone violence, but the lamp over the head thing is kinda crunk (can't lie). however, it was just some head...WTF would possess you to BITE...like take the enamel that grew from out your head thru your gums and BIIIIIITE off his dick?! i mean, i know times are hard, but couldn't you just have boiled a pot of grits and threw it on him?! how about lighting him on fire?! anything but biting his dick off...then they had to sew the hoe BACK ON!

see, lorena bobbit caused a frenzy when she chopped off her man's thang-thang back in the 90's and threw it out the window. all ya'll that are goin' crazy over a cheating man, please find other ways to get back at him! the dick is too precious to be bitin', cuttin', burning, and sawing off!!!

there are those in other countries that go to bed at night with an empty stomach that wish they had a dick to fight over. ok...my rambling is completed.

Poll & Condom Call! "What's Your Favorite Condom?"

2009-04-24T21:17:00.000-04:00

so ya'll know me and my random self: i decide to poll people at the most random times just to see what other people are doing/using/saying/playing with/etc. since i was on a condom excursion, i polled a few people to see what i'd come up with.

for those of you that told me they don't know what condoms to buy, this will be helpful for you. i believe in safe sex. ladies, there is nothing wrong with knowing what condoms feel good for you and carrying your own. you shouldn't expect the guy to come with one!

enough with the chat and chew...swallow on this!

lifestyle condoms:

- "thin enough to give him and her pleasure"

trojan magnum condoms
*rated favorite with tootsie talkers*

- "magnum. it doesn't choke my piece & it feels good"

- "magnum! they stay on and they just feel good"

- "magnum...it didn't choke me to death lol"

*sidenote (and side eye): now how did all three of them say the same damn thing?! i'm jus sayin'...lol

trojan her pleasure

*yall already KNOW these are MY fave!"

- "they're sized like magnums, so it fits, but has more lube and makes it more stimulating for me and her"

-her pleasures, i like those a lot

trojan twisted pleasure

-trojan twisted pleasures lol. they keep errthang slick.

lifestyles is a no no.

magnums are too thick n they dry up. mmm hmm.

slam condoms

-slam condoms; you can find 'em in the west indies

Tootsie's Condom Curiosity...

2009-04-22T16:37:00.001-04:00

tootsie here...

continuing on this road of discovery, this trail includes sharing my experiences, thoughts, and opinions, along with my curiosity and my own questions about sex. well talkers, miss tootsie, on this road to self discovery, is curious to finding out what the highly rated and thinnest condom in the world! yes...i have searched, found, and now i'm curious to find out what's so special about em. here's what i found:

oh baby! lemme tell you about what i found out about this right chea!! Crown® Condoms are "The closest thing to nothing at all"® "crown" is a said to be the "rolls royce" of condoms! it's so good, it's what the porn stars use and prefer! crown condoms are japan's top rated skinless condom! yes, i said skinless! with japan's latex technology, it's been said to be the best in the world!!

this (plain looking) super thin condom is lubed with a resevoir tip, slightly wider (avg. condom = 52mm; crown condom = 55mm) with a more comfy shape, but it's non-contoured, and tinted the color pink! so guys, you may not dig the pink, but once on, it resembles being bare-back! again, it's made of latex and has been through a series of tests to confirm durablity.

so tootsie's curiosity is piqued.

review: coming soon...:)

Pleasure Item Spotlight: Trojan's Extended Pleasure

2009-04-22T07:32:00.004-04:00

so i've had a few birdies from time to time tell me that their partners are quick pumpers & quick cummers. hey, it happens to the best of us. you are all hot and bothered and omg, omg, you are about to explode and before he can get it all the way in, he's done. o-k..get off me...

sad to say, there are a lot of guys that suffer from pre-ejaculation, resulting in the party to be over before it ever began. well, i've decided to spotlight an item to help you out ladies and gents!

behold:

trojan's extended pleasure condoms

this condom is wonderful and highly rated for those that have that seven seconds of sex that we women can't stand to go through. what's special about these is the condom is specially lubricated with a stabilizing agent that prevents premature ejaculation. if you have this issue, climax controlled is the way to go! now you can give her that back breaking session for longer than the 7 seconds you're used to enduring! :)

smile, and enjoy!

Climbing, Cockfighting, & Condoms: Let the Games Begin!

2009-04-22T01:41:00.001-04:00

from time to time, i'll bless you all with some of my faves, ranging from toys, gadgets, and gadzooks to different things that i've personally used to heighten sexual pleasure. this time, i've taken the liberty to finding out what the ladies and gents are using to rip, roll, and ride. so, i'm sittin' back and letting you all do the talkin' . from condom reviews to bringing light to some of the most sought out and most talked about condoms on the market, we're bringin' it here to you!

...let the games begin!

"A" Marks the Spot!

2009-04-21T15:34:00.007-04:00

ladies and gents,

school is in session. been kinda holdin' out on this particular subject, but i like to share any information from time to time that could help enlighten your sexual selves.

i did a post a while back about the G Spot. i had the luxury of sharing a play-by-play of where the bad boy was and all the trimmings and fixin's it provided when stimulated. now let's move on the the next level: the A spot.

here is an excerpt from Desmond Morris. his book details and outlines the four distinct zones of a woman's v'gine that will stimulate her.

"The A-Spot, AFE-zone or Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone. Also referred to as the Epicentre, this is a patch of sensitive tissue at the inner end of the vaginal tube between the cervix and the bladder, described technically as the 'female degenerated prostate'. (In other words, it is the female equivalent of the male prostate, just as the clitoris is the female equivalent of the male penis.) Direct stimulation of this spot can produce violent orgasmic contractions. Unlike the clitoris, it is not supposed to suffer from post-orgasmic over-sensitivity.

Its existence was reported by a Malaysian physician in Kuala Lumpur as recently as the 1990s. There has been some mis-reporting about it, and its precise position has been incorrectly described by several writers. Its true location is just above the cervix, at the innermost point of the vagina. The cervix of the uterus is the narrow part that protrudes slightly into the vagina, leaving a circular recess around itself. The front part of this recess is called the anterior fornix. Pressure on it produces rapid lubrication of the vagina, even in women who are not normally sexually responsive. It is now possible to buy a special AFE vibrator – long thin and upward curved at its end, to probe this zone."

Desmond Morris, The Naked Woman: A Study of the Female Body, Jonathan Cape, London (2004).

http://www.heretical.com/miscella/g-spots.html

hey look, i didn't make this up...just thought you'd like to know. the g-spot ain't the only spot that'll get you got! :)

A Lil More Than Gettin' ZzzZzzZ...

2009-04-20T19:19:00.000-04:00

how long should you wait after meeting someone to sleep with them?

-miss i-wanna-know

hey miss! good question...since you asked my opinion, imma give it to ya. :)

personally, you have to be the judge on this one. i'm not one to put a time limit on when it's the right time to sleep with someone. there have been people that have hooked up within the first hours of meeting and are still together and there are some who decided to wait a year in the relationship to commit relations. my point is: every couple is gonna do what's best for their situation.

let your mind be the judge b/c your mind will keep you in touch with reality. you let your loins be your guide and you may end up doin' something you may regret...but you have the final say in that.

that's tootsie's take on it...

I Be'Queef You...

2009-04-19T17:34:00.009-04:00

ok,

what is the definition of 'queefing' & is it the same as a regular fart?!

let me be blunt about this: QUEEFING IS NOT THE EQUIVALENT OF A FART!!

ok, had to let that out (not literally, since we are on this subject). to rewind, a "queef" is the slang term for pussy fart. medical terminology uses the latin term flatus vaginalis -when gas or air is expelled from the vagina. are we clear on the definition? aight.

queefing can happen during cunnilingus, during sex, after sex...hell, it can happen if you are getting ready to stretch to exercise or in the middle of doing an exercise. it's nothin' you anticipate! it happens when air forces its way up in the v'gine and escapes out and makes a "fart-like" noise.

during sex, for example, we all know that guys like to have that "visual" of stickin' it all the way in, then pulling it all the way out, then sticking it all the way back in. okay, this is cute for you all, but you're letting air in and then forcing it all the way up there. eventually, that air has to come out. please don't be offended...or let it stroke your egos, guys. all you did was force a bunch of air up there.

guys, let me burst your bubbles: your dick size has nothing to do with this either. a small dick inside at a jackhammer pace can allow air to enter. a huge dick at a slow pace can cause air to seep in. you will have a more likely chance of queefing (ladies) switching positions, or getting comfortable in the position you're in. also, queefing can happen to anyone, whether her walls are loose or tight. it can just happen, okay?

farting, what you men like to do so often and don't give a damn about is NOT the same. same concept, different body part, gasses, smells, and any other thing that would cause you to do so. eatin' a big plate of kidney beans and broccoli will not cause her to queef afterwards.

i hope you're informed.

Sexu'lations, Casually

2009-04-14T21:26:00.008-04:00

tootsie,

what's your take on causal sex? yes or no?

imo, if you and your partner are consenting adults, then have at it. however, majority of the time i find that people that engage in having no-strings-attached sex end up having problems in the long run, even with the intial agreement. why? because it STARTS out with "oh yeah, we have an agreement to be f*ck buddies and nothing more", but people who say that aren't gettin' that good ole break ya back, scratchin' and screamin' dick. don't LET the pussy be fie or the dick be the deal! after a while, SOMEONE in the agreement is going to start expecting something other than a nut, and that's where the feelings start rolling in.

personally, if you're thinking of doin' it, REALLY ask yourself if you can handle it. if you're just tryna cum and you know you can handle seein' this person with other people, then hey, make sure your parter UNDERSTANDS, up front, what your expectations are. in the long run, they can't say "i didn't know..."

this has been tootsie's wise words of the day. carry on...

Gotta Question for Tootsie to Answer???

2009-04-10T21:46:00.001-04:00

send all inquiries to...

tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com
tootsietalk@gmail.com

Pleasure Position Spotlight: The Wheelbarrow

2009-04-10T20:11:00.009-04:00

hey talkers. it's been a minute since i've posted a new position to have you bouncing on (pun intended). for the ladies, chile...chile...come sit next to auntie tootsie. lemme tell you about alllll about this one. this sex position is the wheelbarrow. ::fans self:: ooh chile and uh huh!

this position is B.O.M.B. b/c it allows your man (ladies) to get inside you at an upward angle, hittin' that g-spot right ON the head. you have no excuse but to take it! now, make sure you can hold your upper body up with your hands. don't collapse or you'll break a limb! auntie tootsie has warned you and my insurance doesn't cover you.

for the sexperts and whatnots, we are well aware of all of this. if you're a "g", make him stop thrustin' and you...yes, you throw that ass back on it and let him watch. i'm pretty sure he will enjoy the show! :)

i know you're lookin' at the picture like "what the hell is she promoting and how the hell am i supposed to do this?" ladies it's fairly simple. you don't need to be a sexpert to do this. grab a chair and have him sit in it. face him backwards (cowgirl style) and sit on it...alllll the way on it. don't do it half way, or it will come out when you stand. now, once you have it all the way in, bend over and put your hands on the floor and take your legs off of the floor. let him grab your ankles and have him stand up. make sure your palms are flat on the floor.

.scream.

The Best Types of Sex

2009-04-05T21:27:00.012-04:00

ive been kinda holding out on posting this topic, but lately i've had some (ahem) inspiration on this particular topic. i have compiled the best and [probably] the most outrageous types of sex two (or more...whatever tickles your pickle) persons can participate in. feel free to add in your two or three cents if i missed any.

1. morning sex

we are all aware that regular typical missionary position, soap opera sex, under the sheets with candles burning occurs at night. however, there's nothing like a good roll over while your face is crusty, eyes glued shut, muscles relaxed sex session. john legend said it best when he sang "good mooorning love". sleepy morning sex is good ladies because your man is 99.9% guaranteed to have that good "morning wood". also, it's also gives a good morning workout, burning 300 calories an hour AND using every muscle, working out the heart and lungs.

2. "liq-dick"

for those who consume alcohol, you know where i'm coming from. you've been out at the club or a party all night and you've had enough drinks to deem you d.u.i. certified! however, it's not the sloppy drunkedness that will give you the "pissy drunk til you're sick" stamp of approval. no. this is that i've had some drinks, now i'm ready for that "pull my hair and smack my ass" dick. ladies and gents, we call this "liq dick."

this isn't something you would participate in all the time, otherwise, having sex sober won't be as fun. you bring this technique out every blue moon! when you're drunk, your reflexes are slower, but your body is waaaaaaay more sensitive to touches, licks, and any stimulation. if the wind blows, you're bound to orgasm!

*note: both parties must be intoxicated & the guy must be able to get hard...otherwise, it doesn't work!*

3. where-you're-not-supposed-to-be-sex

now look, don't go runnin' back tellin' people tootsie said to have sex in a church parking lot! be smart! :-/ however, there is NOTHING that will give you a rush to do sexual acts to your partner in places that you are not supposed to! ha! you know what i mean...on top of the car, outside in an abandoned parking lot, in a tightly fitted broom closet, or your english auditorium at school...TAKE YOUR PICK! there's nothing like gettin' the nookie knocked in anticipation that you just may get caught.

4. make-up sex

you're pissed; he's mad. you think you're right, so does he! but some of the best sex you will have is not when you've had an amicable debate about women being from venus and men being from mars. make-up sex comes into play when he or she has gotten you to the point of pissitivity, it would make the devil's head spin!!! you literally want to squeeze their head til it POPS! however ladies, when he grabs you and spins you around and throws you on a kitchen counter WITH your business suit still on and he takes it and girl you throw it like you are trying to start a friction fire between your bodies, the make-up sex is in FULL effect!

5. comfort sex

when little frou-frou gets hit by a car, it can be earth shattering! fellas, this may seem like the most INOPORTUNE time to make a move on her, but it indeed will make her feel better.

now, there's a way you do this. if little frou-frou still has fresh tire marks in his back, let's not go for a titty, please. let her mourn! what i'm saying is, listen to her, give her a shoulder to cry on, comfort her until she calms down, then get on your knees and eat it. this is the best way to make your move. don't ask for head...you WON'T NOT get it! lie her back and make her feel comfortable and relaxed. even through tears, it will take her mind off of it.

*note: don't eat it all fast and hard and what not. eat it slow and take your damn time! this is her time*

ya'll are smart...you get the point!

6. the heave like monkeys, ripping paint off the wall, panties in the ceiling fan sex

biting, scratching, yelling, sweating, concussions, booty smacking, drooling, bruises...yes!!! the sex where you break a bed and possibly a bone...this sex is great!! it's that sex you see in movies where they walk in the door and begin ripping each other's clothes off faster than fire could melt them. this sex requires to be done anywhere other than the bedroom. be careful: don't crack a tooth banging your heads together.

*note: fellas, if your girl isn't walking bowlegged after this type of sex, you did it wrong.

ladies, if you are not equally participating enthusiastically in this type of sex, you're a lame and you should be banned from sex altogether! :)

i hope my inspiration has inspired you. what sex you off...i mean SETS you off?

(remember, i said TYPES of sex...not places)

BONUSBONUSBONUSBONUS

thanks to tootsie talker supaignant for the suggestion!! i forgot one type of sex that will DEF make you have the ape appetite...

7. the i-tested-negative-for-h.i.v. sex

for all of us RESPONSIBLE adults that make it a routine every 3-6 months to get themselves tested for HIV, you all clearly understand this type of sex.

"mr/miss so&so, you have tested negative for h.i.v. antibodies." you let out a sigh of relief, then make that phone call with a little more ease and confidence that you won't cough and your nose slides off your face in the middle of sex (i'm being facetious!).

to know your status is the best feeling on earth. to know yours and your partner's is bomb...and so will be the sex once you two find out the truth.

Tutorial: How to Join Tootsie.Talk

2009-03-29T21:05:00.018-04:00

1. on the right of the page, you will see "join as a tootsie talker"

2. click the "follow" button

3. the next page will give you a choice whether to sign in with your Google (Gmail), AIM, Yahoo!, or OpenID account.

4. i used the example from the tootsie google account for this tutorial. enter your email address and password and click "sign in"

5. the next page will allow you to create a screen name, upload a photo (optional), and to follow.

*YOU MUST CLICK FOLLOW PUBLICLY TO OFFICIALLY JOIN AND MAKE COMMENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!*

*YOUR INFORMATION IS NOT STORED WITH TOOTSIE.TALK. ALL INFORMATION AND DATA IS STRICTLY FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE*

after you're finished, click "follow this blog"

6. congratulations!! you will officially be a tootsie.talker!

HAVE A QUESTION?

Email all inquiries at tootsietalk@gmail.com

Tootsie's on Twitter!!!

2009-03-29T19:54:00.003-04:00

are you on twitter, the hottest social status updating website to date? well tootsie is!! follow tootsie on twitter at http://www.twitter.com/tootsietalk.

you can create a free account on twitter and follow friends, family, celebrities and different things of interest. sign up today at http://www.twitter.com/

*disclamer: tootsie.talk or any affiliates of tootsie.talk are associated with twitter.com. the views, articles, and opinions of tootsie.talk are in no relation to twitter.com.

Pleasure Item Spotlight: X-Pole

2009-03-28T10:47:00.009-04:00

image credit: http://www.x-pole.com.au

hey tootsie,

so being the freak that i am, i have always had a fascination with all things sexual. i l♥ve to please my dude, and myself, and while i have been on the road to self entertainment, i recently made this purchase. it's called the Xpole! it is detachable and has no maintenance required. you can easily assemble it in 3 easy steps. now i know some people are hesitant or think it may fall or mess up your house, or put your business in the streets, but let me clarify. NO MA'AM. i weigh 192 lbs and have not fell yet or had any issues with it. so as the recommendation of the month, i say, "enjoy ladies!"

video assembly instructions:
http://www.x-pole.co.uk/video/xpole_assembly.wmv

i also recommend you study and take classes at this site:
http://www.xpoleus.com/

buy the x-pole at:

http://www.amazon.com/X-pole-Chrome-Xpole-Dancing-Stripper/dp/B001K202IC

watch jamilla deville perform on the titatnium 45-mm X-Pole at the official release party:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YnVCWCW1TLQ

i am tootsie and i approve this message.

Kegel Exercises: Keepin' it Tight

2009-03-27T22:53:00.011-04:00

ladies,

have you fulfilled your daily 200 kegel exercises today? no, seriously! on top of staying fit and keeping toned, 200 kegel exercises a day is the recommended number needed to keeping tight. don't know what a kegel? let me school you!

a "kegel" [kay'gul], an exercise named after dr. arnold kegel, is a technique that consists of contracting then relaxing the pelvic floor muscles. in other words, squeezing and relaxing the pussy muscles. these exercises are said to keep the vadge walls tightened (especially after childbirth) and strengthened, prevents uterine prolaspe (ive seen this in person! it is NOT pretty)/(basically keeps all your lower organs, i.e. bladder, etc. from falling out, due to weakened muscles), and enhances sexual pleasure for both parties involved in sexual activity.

yeah, say tootsie sounds like a doctor, but that good ob/gyn training comes in handy! :) you can do these on your own discreetly while at home, on your job, grocery shopping, or anywhere you feel the need to "squeeze those PCs" :)

if you need some help or reinforcement, you can buy the above pictured "kegelcisor" at:

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41QCK2M6QTL._SL500_AA280_.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.amazon.com/Kegelcisor-Kegel-exerciser/dp/B0009950GG&usg=__E_o2u_hPCEzCZuB4BLV1_se_t8k=&h=280&w=280&sz=10&hl=en&start=3&sig2=LJRkO5mQXXlA_JGI4bp-CA&um=1&tbnid=eAAIpcRSX0fqsM:&tbnh=114&tbnw=114&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dkegel%2Bexerciser%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26um%3D1&ei=9JPNSefIGMSHtgfm8_30CQ

...you've been informed.

No Rhythm in the Ride

2009-03-25T18:56:00.003-04:00

i want to learn how to ride like a cowgirl!!! i get so nervous and i have never really stayed up there. i also lose sense of rhythm since i am lacking in that department.

-prepare to take notes-

miss ma'am! uhhh, have you not not yet learned the power of the "p"? you have more power in between those hips than you realize. well, since you asked, auntie tootsie is here to give you some basics on how to make his toes crack.

see, being on top is sweet because it allows YOU to be in control of how fast it slides in, how deep you want it, how hard the thrust, the tempo/speed, AND when YOU cum. hell, i'm almost tempted to say you don't need the sucka there, really...just you and the d. riding is also good b/c it gives him all types of views of you bouncing and working. men like to see a woman flip and flop around. girl! what's the nervousness from? hop on...let's ride.

straddle him...i know you got that part (...please say you got that part!). now, typically he's gonna guide you down with his hands...just let him feel. what you have to do is take it slow. sit all the way down on it, if you can stand it. swivel your hips around, slightly. this is gonna open your walls up and your hips. if you do this for about a minute, it's gonna start to get wetter and easier to handle. once you feel this, you are ready for the bounce!

bounce up and down at first. don't try to do any tricks; get a good rhythm going. don't try to get gangsta and start all fast and stupid and then slow down then speed up. he's not gonna cum, and neither are you! once you get the hang of that, go up, down, and slide thrust forward...more of a grind. this will allow his dick to angle up to the g'spot we love oh-so much!

really, it's all in the rhythm that deems you a good rider. you control the dick, don't let it control you! just as you drive a car (stick shift, preferably), you guide it, it doesn't guide you to where you're going.

now, some other tricks of the trade are as follows (i hope you got your pen and paper):

-"spread": as you are in mid-bounce, pretty much half-way on it, palm each ass cheek and pull them apart. this is gonna make your lips spread and let him have the chance to go deeper. this is also good if you're riding cowgirl b/c it gives him a show of him slidin' in and out.

-"froggy": we're all familiar with doggy...but froggy is a position that is exactly that. instead of riding with your knees down, you sit on the d with your knees up to the ceiling. you basically squat on it and bounce. beware b/c this position will cause you to feel every INCH of him inside you. there's really no skimping out on inches on this one. sorry...ribbit!

there's also the spin, the grab and hold, reverse cowgirl, and a host of other tricks that will add notches under your belt to become the heavyweight you need to be!

all the sistas reading are cheering for you. im pretty sure your dude won't mind the practice. im pretty sure he won't mind showing you what he likes either.

saddle up and ride 'em cowgirl! email me and lemme know how it goes! ;)

Opinions, Polls, and Such: "Does Size Matter"

2009-03-13T16:09:00.011-04:00

tootsie,

does size matter?

i am so surprised no one has asked me this question! well, for this question, i thought i'd ask some of my closest girlfriends to chit chatter about it. guys, here is what the ladies had to say:

"of course, but not if you don't know how to make it work"

"yes and no; he should be well proportioned to hit all the walls. sumthing the size of my thumb is too small"

"size isn't a big issue for me, they would just need to know how to work it...HOWEVER...i don't want a little pecker!"

"yes, size does matter. it's not about the motion of the ocean b/c if i don't feel it, i won't enjoy it...so what's the purpose"

"size does mater to a certain extent. if its not long, then it needs to have some width to it. if you have no length and no width, you might as well keep f***ing your bullet. however, some of the biggest people don't know how to do anything with it. it's not about just sticking it in and out; it has to have some motion to it."

fellas, to tootsie, size isn't a problem, regardless of what you heard or what we say. seeing mr. marcus (yes chile...ahem!) is all good and well, but it isn't necessary to get the j-o-b done. this topic really depends on the woman, but i don't know any sista that would want something so big and gigantic that she has to get her damn head together before she gets on it like she's about to box mike tyson. that just ain't sexy.

now, not minimizing those of us that like it rough and painful at times, but we want you to put in WORK when it comes to you throwing your back into it, big or small. here are some ways to help you...

-rhythm will always be key! don't start off rough then slow down then speed up.

-pay attention (esp if you KNOW you have a lil dick!)...stop closing your eyes and getting all into it and breathing hard. make sure we are the ones you are taking care of. if you don't hear us breathing hard and eyes in the back of our heads, typically, you're not doing nothing...mmmkay?

-keep it friggin' simple!!! those guys in porns are PAID to do all types of Cirque du Soleil acrobatic mechanics and such!! you look stupid and you're hurting us.

-watch what hole you're FORCING it in. typically (is SAID typically), some of us have one that's tighter than the other. when you go forcing and feel it suuuuper tight...pleaaaase make sure it's the RIGHT one you're tryna divide and conquer!

-lastly, the infamous "thigh slap" trick will make us cum in 2 minutes, but PLEASE let it be known that you are NOT the king of sh*t by humping us that damn fast like you are a poodle in heat. we know it's little, but conquer the pussy in other ways.

...was it good for you as it was for me??

15 Outrageous Sex Laws!!

2009-03-10T18:08:00.008-04:00

need a laugh of the day? i have compiled a list of the FUNNIEST and most outrageous sex laws on the planet! enjoy...or be arrested!

"Female breasts," according to the Arizona Supreme Court, don't constitute "private parts" under state law.

The penalty for masturbation in Indonesia is decapitation.

In London, it's illegal to have sex on a parked motorcycle.

In China, women are prohibited from walking around a hotel room in the nude. A woman may be naked only while in the bathroom.

Up until 1884, a woman could be sent to prison for denying a husband sex.

In Alabama, it's against the law for a man to seduce "a chaste woman by means of temptation, deception, arts, flattery or a promise of marriage."

It's illegal to have sex with a corpse anywhere in the United States.

*well hell, i would hope so!!!*

As recently as 1990, these states had laws against the use of dildos: Idaho, Utah, Arizona, Oklahoma, Minnesota, Louisiana, Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, Virginia, Maryland, Massachusetts, Rhode Island and Washington D.C.

In Minnesota, it is illegal for any man to have sexual intercourse with a live fish.

In Detroit, couples are not allowed to make love in an automobile unless the act takes place while the vehicle is parked on the couple's own property.

The only acceptable sexual position in Washington, D.C. is the missionary position. Any other sexual position is considered illegal.

In the state of Utah, sex with an animal—unless performed for profit—is not considered sodomy and therefore is legal.

An Oklahoma state representative once proposed a bill requiring that a man explain the dangers of pregnancy and obtain a woman's written consent before the two could legally engage in sexual intercourse.

No man is allowed to make love to his wife with the smell of garlic, onions, or sardines on his breath in Alexandria, Minnesota. If his wife so requests, law mandates that he must brush his teeth.

It's safe to make love while parked in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho. Police officers aren't allowed to walk up and knock on the window. Any suspicious officer who thinks that sex is taking place must drive up from behind, honk his horn three times and wait approximately two minutes before getting out of his car to investigate.

Source: http://www.dribbleglass.com/SUBPAGES/strange/sexlaws.htm

Pleasure Position Spotlight: Doggy Style!

2009-03-08T23:26:00.009-04:00

All photos courtesy of Come As You Are

"who let the dogs out"

(woof! woof! woof! woof! woof!)

ah...such a simple position, and yet, so popular amongst the human, animal, and insect species! ladies and gents, we our spotlight for tonight: doggy style!

this position is not for the faint at heart! if this is done right, sista, you can burn more calories from that honey bun and bag of salt and vinegar chips you ate before you got to his house! yes ma'am!! i am highly the cheerleader for the doggy dog (and i don't mean snoop!)

note: this is clearly for the basic partakers of sex!!! don't send me any messages asking about the other 5 billion ways this could have been achieved!!! B.A.S.I.C. is the word!

ladies, if you are not familiar with this position, i would suggest making sure you and your partner have an understanding about it. this is not a stab-and-go session when he's behind you. this position can take time to get used to, depending on the level of skill the guy has.

you can do the classic doggy and start out on all fours and have him enter your from behind (see above picture)

you can also lean over the bed on all fours and have him enter you this way. observe the picture above.

uncle luke would be so proud. this last way is the "face down, ass up" way to do it doggy style. this is one of my favorites, however, it takes skill not to get up in there and start aiming in every which direction and start pounding at the cervix!

the best way to achieve comfort is just relax! use a good amount of lube (if you need it) and don't be afraid to voice your opinion if the ish hurts!

once you become a pro at it, you can start throwing it back as he thrusts forward. when done correctly, those orgams you'll have will move mountains (and i'm not talkin' usher).

throw it back...for the team!

Pinned Up...

2009-03-08T23:06:00.006-04:00

toots,

man...i have a problem. there is this girl that i'm aquainted with and i'm so very attracted to her sexually, it really frustrates me. i have a lot of pinned up sexual frustration for her, it's to the point where i want to just throw her down and f*** her right there when i see her. what should i do?

um, yeah brother...ok. first and foremost, does she has these same feelings for you? if she does and you are two consenting adults that are 21+, then hey, have at it. if this is just a thing you have, i hope you don't have pictures of her secretly stashed in a shrine in your closet at home with candles. honey, even we as women have sexual frustrations towards men, however, you have to know how to take that energy and put it elsewhere! did i mention in positive activities? watching the two rottweilers down the street hump each other's brains out won't make it better!

if it's that strong, work out or play a sport to get the blood flowing. there's nothing like burning off sexual frustrations heaving and breathing while at the gym. no one will look at your funny and you'll have that body together! :)

second, you can always masturbate (all masturbaters unite!) and free up that blockage that you have piling up in you. sounds like you just need to bust a nut and scream her name while doing so. it eases everything! ;)

if all else fails, just call your local police department and and file a restraining order against yourself on her behalf.

Pleasure Item Spotlight: Double the Pleasure!

2009-03-08T22:04:00.008-04:00

tonight i decided to do a lil double trouble and post a couple of items i know everyone can use in their medicine cabinets, drawers next to the bed...you know, the one lil pookie can't peak in!
first on the clipboard 'o fun:

Good Head Oral Delight Gel

good head is 'specially made for those with the gag reflex. brothers applaud!! no more "don't push my head, imma choke." sisters, every man's prayer has been answered. you now have something that will ease those tears that fall when he bangs the back of that throat!!

for the cutie pie in you ladies, it comes in five fabulous flavors: strawberry, cinnamon, passion fruit, peppermint, and cherry. it's sugar free, so you won't have to worry about going into a diabetic coma while you have his frank and beans in your mouth (pun intended).

cinnamon and peppermint is nice if you are trying to fight plaque, bacteria, and gum disease, but to put in the back of your throat and then slob his knob, it's bound to burn! now he's pissed and you are too because you smell like a wad of gum. stick to the rooty tooty fruity flavors. passion fruit seems to the best! :) be careful not to get this on your skin, other than the area you plan on blowing. it's super sticky!

all you do is take a little bit and put it in the back of your throat and it will numb the back of your throat. then, you know what to do...go for it! fellas, drive her head down like you're tryna drown her in the sea!!!

you can buy Good Head Oral Delight Gel at your local sex shop or online.

next spotlight item:

Pure Instinct Pheromone Cologne - 1/2 oz.

this item is one of my personal secrets and faves i thought i'd share! i bought this little bottle at a passion party for $16, but let me tell you: it's worth every damn dollar!!!

pure instinct is a sex attract cologne. what do i mean?! it does exactly that!! it's an oil, mixed with pheremones that's infused with a light, citrus scent that can be used by men or women. you can use this by itself or mixed with your cologne. i, personally, use it by itself. i dab a little behind my ears, on my wrists, and a little on my chest and rub it in my skin. just a friggin' dab. you don't need to slab it on! you can also add a few drops in your water for bath time. ;) it's effects are said to:

Elevate Confidence

Enhance Moods

Awaken the senses

i'm not one for superstitions, but this my friends, is DEF the real deal!! i get guys that flock like vultures to roadkill around me, that's why i use this stuff sparingly! it's dangerous and does what it says! don't say you weren't warned! :-/

you can buy pure instinct at your local sex shop, ebay, or any sensual store online.

Gotta question for comment for Tootsie?

2009-03-06T22:02:00.004-05:00

send all inquiries to...

tootsietalk@gmail.com

Fan & Reader of Tootsie.Talk?? Join today!!!!

2009-03-06T12:40:00.000-05:00

find yourself checking for new posts daily? love what you see? become a "talker" of tootsie.talk today!!! it's definitely free!

click the "follow" button under the ABOUT TOOTSIE section on the right side of the page.

don't want everyone in your business?? join as an anonymous reader!!

i look forward to "talkin'" with you...;)

Sexual Ramblings: What Women Want Men to Know...(& Stop Doing)

2009-02-27T13:34:00.015-05:00

*ah* my fellow talkers,

i know i have been neglecting you from the latest question, gadget, or tidbit of what i encounter on a day to day basis. my apologies. now get over it.

i have a very good line up of topics, questions, and whatnots to tickle your fancies throughout your monotonous lives. i figured, what better way to begin that wave of pleasure than with what i like to call "a rambling".

today's sexual rambling comes from a plethora of discussions ive had with women dealing with men that try to please us sexually, and do some of the oddest things that end up turning us off. laugh if you must, but hopefully we can get guys to understand and see our points!!!

men...this ISH ain't sexy...

1. stop licking two of your fingers and tapping and hitting our v'gine like that ish is sexy!!! "what the hell are you doing?" is what we are attempting to think, but we don't have any blood in our brains by the time, so we go with it. is this something you think is sexy b/c the girls on pornos let them do it?! news flash: they do that for a living!!!

2. spanking is supposed to be a light tap that is accomplished with the meat of your finger tips to the ass cheek, or can be palmed with the entire hand. anything else HURTS (dumb ass), and i don't need a trip down memory lane of my mama beating me. make it sting, not bite!

3. i'm pretty sure if we're doing the deed, we know your name. stop asking us to repeat it 77 times!!! if i decide to scream it on my own, then that's one thing. but "what's my name?", "say my name"...you are NOT destiny's child!! you'll get an answer once. afterwards, shut up.

4. no, we will not call you daddy, deacon big balls, bishop big nuts, or any other filthy and disgusting man-whore names, unless you are strokin' it that well for us to do so. chances are, you only get daddy when you strokin' it well enough to make us bark like a beagle.

5. can you please ask us (for the love of love making) how we want to be eaten?! please!! it's so stressful for a bunch of tongue and flicking and fingers and such to be down there, and all you are doing is making us make a bunch of noise to fake an orgasm, just so you'll stop. again, the porno actors and actresses are paid to do that. ask us how so we can achieve the ending result.

6. your fingers hurt!!! let me reiterate: your damn fingers hurt!!! fellas, there is a way to slide your fingers inside the v'gee without tearing open things and leaving lacerations against the walls of life. one day, a head has to pass thru there!!! fingering shouldn't be so forceful. your knuckle is there for an effing reason...you're not getting past it!! also, spit is NOT lube!!! it dries quicker!! lotion isn't lube either!! get the proper stuff to use.

7. and cut your damn nails!!! please!! i came to cum, not have you give me a hysterectomy with those sharp nails of yours!!!

8. slob wasn't cute in kindergarten, and dammit, it's not cute now. please men, when you are licking on our bodies, whether its our ears, breasts, stomachs, etc., please refrain from leaving a trail of slob where your mouth was! the worst is seeing it on you or letting air hit it! if you're a mouth-breather, that's okay, but fine tune your skills and don't leave any dribble behind or we'll hand you a bib!

9. some of us plan on breast feeding our offspring in the future. can you PLEASE refrain from trying to tear our nipples off like you are T-Rex on Jurassic Park?! why are you so excited to make us bleed?! it's not sexy! take your time. if she asks for it harder, ok, but what is the purpose of you trying to suck the muscle and fat tissue out of our nipples? stop sucking so hard!!! it's not gatorade!

10. we are well aware that jenna jameson and whatever porn star listed on earth are capable of shoving a nerf football in their crotch and shooting it out and squirting behind it. fellas, we can't do that in real life, okay? otherwise, we will apply to get paid $5,000 a frame to do the damn trick. if you yourself had to ask how the broad did it, how the hell you think we are?!

alright talkers, i'm done rambling for now. please stay tuned. i'll have more later!!

It's All in the Choke

2009-02-22T23:24:00.006-05:00

tootsie,

so, i have this homegirl and she gets to tellin' me how she likes to be choked when she's having sex. uh...did i miss something? what you think about that?

honey, come closer to the screen...*knocks in head*

WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?! choking isn't as bad as it sounds (despite the "brown" sydrome that we are used to hearing about...i.e. james, bobby, (ahem) ::whispers:: christopher!).

now, the choking is not to the point of unconsciousness and/or death (and if he finds this kinky, find yourself to the nearest police station), but it is quite sexy for a man to get a lil rough with you.

now, i'm first to say that everyone is not gonna jump on board with this. sistas, lemme just point out that i was sort of appalled when my shoulders was being pulled back and all of a sudden i felt a grip to the back of my neck. not only was i mad he did that, i was mad i LIKED IT. hey, don't judge me! lol

now, if ya'll are sexin' missionary, then a hold around the neck with a very light grip around the neck can be sexy. he should know how to hold his body weight so that his arms aren't heavy (and if he finds this kinky, find yourself to the nearest police station).

for me, the very best way to be "gripped" is in any position from the back. if ya'll are standing against a wall, a nice Ving Rhames choke hold, with a low voice in your ear tellin' you be like Diddy and "take that, take that" is something to bust a nut over.

bottom line is: i like it (since you asked, miss ma'am)...i prefer a lil side of kink with my main course of sex.

...sounds like you need to order a meal, honey.

The tootsie.talk V♥lentine's Day Red Light Special: LET ME SERVE YOU UP

2009-02-14T10:57:00.013-05:00

"take a good look at it, look at it now. might be the last time you'll have a go 'round. i'll let you touch it if you'd like to go down. i'll let you go further if you take the southern route. don't go too fast, don't go too slow, you've got to let your body flow. i like 'em attentive, and i like 'em in control.
baby it's yours, all yours, if you want it tonight. I'll give you the red light special all through the night. baby it's yours, all yours, if you want it tonight. just come through my door, take off my clothes, and turn on the red light. "

-TLC's Red Light Special1994

happy v♥lentine's day tootsie talkers! i'm pretty sure all the ladies are gettin' those 'dos done just so their man can run his fingers thru it later and mess up the $200 investment *wink* i ain't even mad at 'cha! :)

to finish off the "at your service" for our special edition week, i have an extra special treat for you, ladies. the article below is written by a man that says he's not afraid to serve his lady. service is an act of selflessness; an act that's given with no intentions of receiving anything in return.

his act of service: the (very) basic art of pussy eating

composed for: all the guys that need help learning how to...

lie back. relax. read his words. spread.

fellas, i'm here, let's get to it...

Reasons for eating her pussy:

-your woman will enjoy it

-gotta "pre-heat" the oven b4 anything more

-your woman will really enjoy it

-sex (if it gets to that) will be better

-your woman will DEFINITELY enjoy it (if you do it right!)

first off fellas, like anything with women, you can't just jump right into it. assuming that her pretty panties are off and you're goin' in for the kill, it's YOUR JOB, to tease her body a bit. WHATEVER your definition is of that (kissing thighs, blowing, licking), ANYTHING that will make her anticipate you eating it.

little tip: there is almost no need to ever insert your tongue into her. actually contrary to popular belief, a long tongue is not required to eat pussy. your lips, with just a lil added tongue to her clit is all ya need. *disclaimer - if you don't know what a clit is, i suggest you school yourself first before you ruin sumthin.

start off slow and using your tongue, lick in a circular motion. don't be surprised whatever part of the clit you start on still might not be that spot she's looking for you to hit; a female knows what she wants and will re-position herself or your head where she wants it. don't feel like your'e doin' it wrong. your goal is to serve her how SHE wants to be served.

while still working the clit, gently suck it, just a liiiiiiittle bit to give her a different sensation that she will love. now fellas, don't overdo it! this is one of those moves that can be overused so use it wisely - no more than 3 - 4 times unless she specifically asks or tells you to do it.

okay, now to the motions and speeds. i personally, like to start off with a slow clockwise. No matter what motion you start off with, you definitely must start off slow. after a while, mix it up with a different motion and speed. *never go fast or extreme until she gets really close to cumming; you'll find urself tired with a strained jaw muscle * if she's gettin' wetter by the second, and your chin in drenched in her juices, you'll know you're doin' it right! :-D

alright! so now you got her as wet as she's ever been and she's about to cum, it's time to take her to the top. now is the time to put the switch on fast or the "hurricane" speend and do one of the simple motions such as side to side. make sure you give it enough pressure and speed, but still keep it gentle and light. for added intensity, move your head side to side to increase the speed.

throw her off guard and slowly slide your middle finger inside her pussy, palm up. the closer she gets to that cumming, she'll probably move away from your mouth a little bit; it is important to move with her, hold her down, and finish the job.

if she tries to suffocate you with her thighs, screaming, yelling, moaning, pushing your head deeeper, and/or her clit is standing on end, and says "i'm cumn!", my friend, you've made her cum...suck with all your might until she comes back down!

HAPPY PUSSY EATING!

from the author:

now ladies, i know this is basic and there are PLENTY of otha tricks we could do to eat you into oblivion. however, this is just a quickie for the fellas that are clueless when it comes to pleasin' you right.

thanks tootsie for letting me share!

happy valentine's day.

Pleasure Item Spotlight: Chocolate Love Drops

2009-02-11T21:57:00.004-05:00

fellas, the typical whip cream on her body is nice, but it's still made of milk and leaves a lingering smell, even after you've slobbered it off your woman's (ahem) heart...
well, for those that haven't tried it, try CHOCOLATE! mmm...chocolate is sweet, sticky, AAAAND it's increases the libido!!*note* a libido is your sex drive
so tonight, i've decided to spotlight the item Chocolate Love Drops.
It's a kit that comes with white and dark chocolate and a paint brush (for the j.j. evans in you)*wink*
this is seeeeexy and a slick way to get your woman's blood rushing by just the feel of the paintbrush against her skin.you can even go kindergarten on her and finger paint(pun maybe intended)hehe...

fellas, spice it up by blindfolding your lady and guiding her to the bed.(add rose petals for the feel, candles for the smell, and music for the added cheesiness) set the mood to get her in the mood...are you taking notes?!

*fellas, not to ruin the mood, but chocolate DOES NOT belong anywhere inside the body, unless it's ingested by mouth. don't get too kinky and shove the stuff up her vadge! when you go down on her and come up coughing up honey buns and bread b/c of all the yeast, you'll learn your lesson! the vadge is incredible, but not the incredible hulk! you can put it AROUND areas...just not in*

you can buy the pleasure item from http://www.mybedroomboutique.com/setting-the-mood/romantic-kits-and-music/kits-and-samplers/chocolate-love-drops-disc-by-mftr-1007.html for a retail price of $19.99.

At Your Service: Strawberries & Champagne

2009-02-11T21:30:00.005-05:00

need a quick idea of what to do after that hot bubble bath tonight? ladies, how about surprising your man with anice glass of champagne with an added strawberry...

quick. simple. delicious. *for more ideas, check out http://www.lovingyou.com*

"stacks, thongs, and owning it"

2009-02-09T19:33:00.006-05:00

level of difficulty:fairly easy

my sisters, my ladies! our time of the year is drawing near! the time where all the stores bombard us with the chocolates to get fat, the flowers to die, and the teddy bears to get boxed on the 15th! nevertheless, we indulge in it! we live for it (some of us ::rollseyes::)! valentine's day is close! so let's start off the 1st day of valentines with a sexy feeling.

girls know the meaning of looking sexy, women know the meaning of looking and feeling sexy. there's nothing like havin' on a fly outfit lookin' sexy without feeling it inside. it just don't work. so today, i've drafted up my suggestion of something cute, yet kinky, that's sure to get his libido racing and your confidence boosted.

what you'll need:

red heels

red thong

confidence

(IT ALL DOES A BODY GOOD)

"stacks on deck"

your heels will want to be, at minimum, 3 inches high. please understand that if you are not the sex kitten that's used to wearing them, the 5-6 inch stacks aren't for you! don't call me if you break your neck! now...

ladies, red heels have always been synonymous with sexiness. we all saw how martin went crazy when gina bought the red, leather pumps home from the shoe store. yeah, enough said! dust off those kickers!

"that thong, th-thong, thong, thong"

the red thong...it'll make a man shake his head and slap his mama. for valentine's day 1, i dare you to go even further and get those cute crotchless ones and rock 'em. lie back on the bed and open wide and see his expression. that peek-a-boo action will send him flying!

go as far as wearing 'em, whether it be panties, boyshorts, thongs, or crotchless under your slacks at work or jeans after work. just the touch of the fabric will begin to make you feel sexy.

"you betta own it!"

if you're a size 4 or 44, rock it like you created it and everyone else wants it!!! we may all envy another woman's body somewhere, but trust if you show your man you love your body, whether a bag of bones or a candidate for liposuction, he'll appreciate it b/c you're just being you...and that's sexy in itself!

take your time walkin' in those heels, smooth and graceful. don't be afraid to wear that thong that's a little "free" in some areas!! switch it up and serve this man the beginning of a wonderful feast: Y-O-U...even if you have on a pair of these...

tootsie♥talk presents: "At Your Service" - The Valentine's Day Special Edition Week

2009-02-09T17:33:00.010-05:00

te quiero bebéje t'aime bébéti amo bambino私は赤ん坊愛するi ♥ you baby

welcome to the tootsie talk v♥lentine's day special edition week "at your service". upon seeing red this week, i've decided to serve up a delicious menu of sweets and sexiness for your reading pleasure for you to share with that special person. sit back, relax, and let me serve you...

i'm tootsie...at your service.

"Wax on, Wax off"

2009-02-04T20:25:00.006-05:00

should we shave, wax, use an electric razor, or scissors down below? or should the jungle run free?

mmm...

i'm a firm believer of the saying "what's good for the goose isn't always good for the gander." some women like it bare and some women like to look like a bear...it's all in preference. lemme be frank...sally...whomever you want me to be...I DO NOT LIKE HAIR (on me). for lack of better words, i believe in shooting, shaving, cutting, and/or killing whatever tries to grow down there. i'm not one for lookin' like don king. some women find it sexy to start a brush fire when they put on their panties. this woman doesn't.

there have been many questions over the years to gynos whether or not a woman needs her vagi-locks. some say that having it protects you from infections, bacteria, etc. some say there's no risk in having none at all. it's really up to how the person keeps themselves...well...kept.

back to your inquiry...here's what i think:

shaving: it's fine to do this, just have a steady hand! i'd also suggest using something for sensitive skin. even if you don't have sensitive skin (or may think you don't), any foreign substance that goes near your goodness o'plenty can potentially cause an infection, if not careful.

waxing: benefits are less shaving every few days and it's smoother than actually shaving. i'm too impatient to wait for the jungle to grow back fully for this. i'll stick to my program.

electric razor: i have a friend that's a barber and he's done this to one of his jump offs. i don't think i'd be too fond of this...

scissors: i pray you're planning on having children in the future. keep the weapons away from your private parts. it's called nair...buy some!

jungle run free: in my eyes, hell no! for what? you just feel cleaner when it's at the least groomed. i know it's for you, but you never know when your man is gonna wanna "tickle your fancy" and he has to see fredrick douglas staring him in the face...you get the point!

"panties or no panties...that's the question!"

2009-01-25T20:39:00.004-05:00

toots,

when are undies a necessary item to wear?

no panties comin' off

my love is gonna cost

'cuz ain't no way you gon' get up in this

for free

-lyrics by Trina

good question!! NEVER! haha...ok, for real now.

this is a good question, hun. as an intern at the city's ob/gyn practice, i surprisingly learned that there are certain times that you should NOT wear panties. why not? because your crotch needs to breathe!!! it's no insinuation of being a freak, it's an insinuation of fact. bacteria tends to multiply in warm, dark places. being that the vagina is a warm, dark place, it's more susecptible to creating a yeast infection...NOT a sexy scene!

panties shouldn't be worn when going to bed. there is no reason for you to wear them, unless you are wearing a pad to bed on your cycle. this is what my doctor told me...

panties (IMO) aren't necessary when working out. why?! what for? typically, you may work out in some sort of elastic, stretchy type material. WHYYYYYY make the cooch suffocate with a hot, sweaty thong on?!

panties aren't needed when you're at home after a hard day's work watching tv. if you have the habit of changing from your work clothes to your lounge wear around the house, get in the habit of taking off your panties also. give the pink taco a break!

panties SHOULD be worn:

to work

while you're out running errands

when you have on jeans (pls stop doing this...)

to church

etc.

get the drift...don't get a draft or you'll be giving vagisil your hard earned $15 to cure that pesky yeast infection you catch.

you've been warned...

"it's january 25th"

2009-01-25T20:37:00.000-05:00

it's january 25...

it's nat'l "eat pussy tonite" nite! :)

"happy birthday to me!"

2009-01-25T20:35:00.003-05:00

the sexpert turns

happy birthday to me! :)

"Pleasure Position Spotlight: THE SHOULDER HOLDER"

2009-01-19T19:30:00.005-05:00

ooh daddy...

::fans self:: chile those little pieces of wood in the picture above are gonna make me have a LOOOOONNNNG conversation with Mr. Superman later! (AHEM) Let me gather myself...

my next spotlight position is THE SHOULDER HOLDER (hold me, baby). MMM!

this position is fairly easy to stand. it's missionary, but ladies, your legs are draped up over their shoulders. this one's especially great if you're flexible. can we say workout?!

the key is to rest your legs up there...not put your heavy ass, ashy ankles up there so he can feel like he's moving a two-ton pound of manure, head first.

this position allows him to give you deep, long strokes (or have a stroke, if it's good) as slow, or as fast has he can. i fancy this position b/c it allows me to rest for a change, and let him take control. this position is also fun b/c it can turn into five other positions (i.e. legs over waist, him holding you by your ankles in the air, him holding your legs spread eagle, etc.).

simply put, if you haven't tried it, you're missing out!

fyi: guys particularly like to watch their dick go in and out of your goodies, like they're a porn star with this position. however, after he takes it out, and slides it back in slowly, it starts to feel like sandpaper. make sure that WET PLATINUM is handy!

"Favorite Item Feature"

2009-01-18T19:31:00.005-05:00

hehehe...

i decided to let you all in on another one of my "fave" lil knick knacks...

i had my homegirl give me a lesson about johnson and johnson's baby oil in lavendar scent. i decided to try, and BOY was she right!

j&j's baby oil is good for those 'greasing up' moments. the lavendar scent is there for the fresh smell. now for the slow folks, don't put them directly on your vadge and p'knuckle! it's not to be used for lubrication. it's merely there for "viewing pleasure". also, this is the old-fashioned BABY OIL...not the gel.

some men (noticed i said 'some') like the view of hittin' it from the back with greasy booty bouncing in the candlelight (or kitchen light...). now if that sounds a little too much for you, get over it! like i told you, there are no inhibitions here, so try something new for a change. grab a bottle of baby oil and rub it all over your body (make sure you have a towel handy) and watch your man's reaction.

still too conservative? find another blog to read! :) hehe

happy greasing!

SPECIAL REPORT: "Are you a Firecrotch?"

2009-01-18T18:35:00.006-05:00

when's the last time you were on fire?? not your typical "STOP, DROP, & ROLL" on fire, i mean ON FI-YAH...the burn...STDs & AIDS ya'll...duhhhhhh!

CNN had a few interesting articles about sexual health, particularly in the African-American community.

(You can read one of the articles at: http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/conditions/09/12/hiv.blacks.gays/index.html)

i'm not y'mama, so i won't tell you what to do. however, if you are participating in any type of sexual activities, PLEASE find yourself at your local clinic or doctor's office. there's no excuse!! there are plenty of places that offer FREE testing. if you're afraid of your results, that's the least of your worries if you end up with something you can't get rid of.

i always thought going to get an HIV test every three months was simple...guess it's a hassle to know whether or not my genitals would deteriorate while i was still alive to use them...UH, MAKES NO SENSE PEOPLE!!!

ladies, when's the last time you've had a pap? are you aware you're supposed to have one every year, along with checking your breasts for abnormalities after every monthly cycle? if you've had an abnormal pap in the past, you're supposed to have a test done every six months until your results show normal. i guess since everything "looks and feels" normal, you should be okay...but who are you really hurting?

lastly, just for your pleasure, imagine you get a phone call from your doctor saying you have something that the tests didn't catch...like herpes! [see expression above] aware that you can catch herpes having PROTECTED sex?? Hmm, my little pop tarts?! also, let me just ADD that herpes is only detected if you get an actual BLOOD TEST, same with Hepatitis C. Hepatitis C is contracted through blood contact. so fyi, even cultures to detect every std is not sufficient. get a blood test, also!

it's 2009; let's try to be better about our sexual health! you take time to make a phone call to get that booty smacked...or to smack some booty...just go to the doctor and take a few tests to make sure that your anal sphincter isn't going to drop out whenever you cough! don't get caught being a firecrotch!!

just my advice, though....

...now let's get back to the goods!

**Check out http://www.evolveoneevolveall.com by Trojan Brand Condoms to find out ways to prevent the spread of STDs and STIs**

"Pleasure Position Spotlight: REVERSE COWGIRL"

2009-01-14T18:17:00.008-05:00

tired of the same old missionary platform? ladies and gents, i've decided to feature one of my fave positions: reverse cowgirl! yeeeeeehaw!!!

this position is great for ladies who like being on top, and for guys that like to see us there using him for what he has! reverse cowgirl is great b/c it gives the guy a chance to see your ride skills! it's different from the redundant up and down. it gives you a chance to work out your hips in many different directions while giving him a back shot. :)

my fave way to do this position is have him sit in a chair, or sit on the edge of the bed, leaning back on his elbows. now, sit on it backwards on it and then have him bring his knees together. it gives you a better balance and better control .

for the extra freak in you, bend your head down and grab his ankles...now ride! :) it's better when you use your hips and spead your cheeks apart...give him an extra show! hehe ;) [ladies, be careful: don't get soooo excited that you make a move and bend his dick the wrong way!]

you can also get crunk by leaning back to get your balance and putting your feet on his knees while holding his shoulders (you're still backwards, now...don't fall!). this would be the time where he would do all the work by using his hips. just hold on and take it! :)

...yee haw! :-D

"If You Won't, Someone Else Will"

2009-01-14T17:33:00.003-05:00

"tell me something: i have a homegirl that's married, but she constantly complains her husband doesn't please her (orally). she told me that since he doesn't, she has someone else that does. that's crazy! i'm a guy, so i understand us, but is it like that for woman?!"

okay brotha, class is in session...lemme school you for a bit! first off, i (again) will NOT condone cheating, in any form. so don't go tellin' everyone tootsie said it was okay. alright!

now, being a part of the "X" chromosome that we are dominated with, let me inform you that we ARE sexual creatures too. just like men, we have NEEDS!!! minus the fact that she is married, yes, it IS like that! 'cause flip the script: if oral was something important to you, and she keeps sayin' "no", what's gonna happen when olympic lips lisa comes struttin' by ready to suck it so good, your back caves in?! hmmm...

on the husband's end, he has to understand that pleasing his woman in every aspect is only in order. however, instead of yelling and making sexual advances, perhaps she needs to discuss what the issue to him and tell him what it is she's searching for.

if all else fails, tell him to just lie on his back with his tongue out...i'm pretty sure she'll do the rest!

"I keep, keep bleeding...blood"

2009-01-07T19:52:00.003-05:00

Good Morning! I hope you had a wonderful and safe evening.

Well, its been a while since I have gotten any and my boo came over last night. All he really did was use his hands, which seemed to have made me bleed. Is that normal? Its not like menstrual flow but there are/were a couple sightings or could it be the angle since most of the time, he was behind me. Also, I dry up quickly and maybe the friction could have caused the stretching to spot.

hey girl! this is quite a common issue among females. Sounds like a couple things could be your issue:

-if the freddy kruger has nails, even if they are trimmed, it's a possibility that he could have cut you while up there. If the bleeding was not that long and faint, this is a possiblility.

-if he was being extremely rough, this can occur as well. Are you near your period?? I find that when you are closer to your cycle, you are more apt to bleeding during sexual activity that's rough.

-worst case scenario: your body could be telling you that something IS wrong and you need to see a doc. Have you had your annual smear recently?! How about an STD exam? If not, you may need 2 mke an appt.

If this isn't it, then tell freddy kruger to calm the hell down on the friction, cut his claw, lube it up a lil more and take his time!

"Ain't nothin' but a 'G' thang"

2009-01-05T22:22:00.000-05:00

toots,

so if i'm unfamiliar with my body, how do i find my g-spot?

first off, don't feel bad. a lot of women are not aware of where their gspots are. finding that "gangsta" spot can be easy, or challenging, depending on the person. since you're unfamiliar, sister to sister, it's time to find out who really are (sexually, i mean). this is definitely something you may not find on the first shot. don't be discouraged: it takes time...so take yours!

second, every woman cums by different methods: vaginal, anal, clitoral, and the power of the "g". if the "g" is stimulated (the right way), you should have a TRUE orgasm, and stronger! ;)

for a quick crash course: the grafenberg spot, known as the "g-spot", is a small, bean-shaped, sensitive spot located in the anterior (or front) of the inside of the vaginal walls; pretty much the area behind your pube bone. it's said to be located "1.5 to 3 inches" inside...so don't go huntin' for treasure! this is as far in and up as you need to be.

miss ma'am, here are the BASIC ways for you to find it...

*note: if you're already experienced in finding yours, spare us all of comments of the splits you do upside down on the ceiling fan to get to it...remember the girl is just STARTING. i'm giving basic instructions*

you have to be comfortable with touching yourself. now, lie on your back and put a pillow under ur back and butt (for comfort, but also to angle you up). lube your middle finger with a little of KY Jelly or Wet Platinum...saliva will dry out too quick. face your palm up, push your finger all the way inside you, 'til you hit your knuckle (unless your finger is more than 3").

you pass out yet??

okay...now, here's the trick: bend your finger slightly...like in a "come here" motion. you should feel the uneven section that's a little soft and spongy. the texture should feel like the inside of the top of your mouth. feel that? good.

while up in the cut, lightly rub ur fingertip from side to side or in a circle and rub around that spot solely. put pressure on it. when you hit that spot, your walls should swell, like his dick does when from stimulation. PRESSURE...more pressure...more than that...(if you feel your crotch running away from your hand, you've hit it!) :)

when you add pressure, you'll know if you're doing it right if you feel like you have to pee (but you won't pee, for all you r.kelly fans). go against the feeling, resist letting go and keep going...faster, and faster, and faster...(it should feel weird, but really good at the same time).

there are also toys specially made for this task if you're a lil leary about shoving your phalanges up your vajayna <---i spelled that right...don't email me telling me otherwise! if your man has a curved dick, there are various ways to access your spot as well. but you're a beginner with exploring your body. using your man's dick is another entry for later.

since you are a beginner, i'll spice it up for ya a bit - let your man eat it, sucking on your clit, and then use his middle finger to find your g-spot at the same time. he MUST take his time with this.

*please make sure you let your man knows if he's gonna double your pleasure by doing this, you are liable to crack his skull when you cum...you will have the urge to shut ur legs to stop the feeling*

hehe...don't say i didn't warn you.

"Welcome to tha dogPOUND"

2009-01-01T15:54:00.004-05:00

so toots, i have a problem maybe you can help me with!

i just started having sex with this guy and all is well, except for one minor little factor: when he hits it from the back, i feel like he's POUNDING against something up there!! it really, really hurts! i feel bad b/c he ♥s sex doggystyle, and i feel like i'm not pleasing him.

can you help me out?

*cracks knuckles* okay mama...here's the deal:

first off, i'm assuming you're talkin' about having sex in the vajayjay. there's nothin' like immersing yourself in a good 'ol fashion session of doggystyle, but sex is supposed to be pleasing and enjoyable to both parties. seems like y'boy is dick happy and just wants to have bragging rights for hitting something and making you scream. i'm all for one with pleasing a man, but if he's hurting me, the entire operation is shutting down!!! i like a little pain that's pleasurable, but just pain where i'd rather shoot myself in the head with a gun is not what's hot!! remember this...

second, never be afraid to communicate! a man is willing to please you, as well (he gets his rocks off by hearing you scream, anyhow). what he's "hitting" up there is your cervix (the opening to the uterus). that mess hurts and it can be damaging. you need to "find that angle" so he's going in deep without hitting that area.

to "find your angle", you can do a few things:

-try arching your back up slightly, or down (whatever feels better) and as you push back on it, let him push forward in it.

-while on all fours, let him slide in, like above, but sit up on your knees, so your back is to his chest. now look, take your time...if his dick is smaller than the average, it's gonna slip out! now, after you sit up, bend over back down, but on your forearms, so you're face in is in the pillow and your hips are up. FYI: this position will allow him to go deeper than the average doggy style, so save this position for another time.

-lie on your stomach, have him lie on top of you and slide inside that way. this may be your best option and it feels hella good.

listen to me..read this aloud...

MARINATE

grind back on it slowly YOURSELF; throw it back. make him SIT THERE and not push forward yet. now, when it's comfy for you (cuz he's chillin', trust!), let him slowly and gently start to hit it. since he loves doggy style so much, make him take his sweet time til you're ready for him to bang you to the point of amnesia!

let him understand you are NOT a piece of concrete and he has the big, bad jackhammer to come and grind your to pieces! the point of doggy style is to have a new position that allows him to have a nice view of the booty, a tighter feeling for the both of you, and the ability for him to go deeper inside. if you have to pick your fallopian tubes out of your ears and off the wall b/c he thinks he's Mr. Marcus, then i suggest he get a new fave position and you stick to the others as well.

HTH

"Pleasure Item Spotlight"

2009-01-01T13:29:00.005-05:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

hey readers! hope your new years celebration was a fun one. to start the new year off right, i thought i'd give you a spotlight item to look for on your next pleasure shopping trip. from time to time, if i come across something that's worth posting, i'll spotlight it. today's spotlight is The Screaming O Bullet Mini Vibrator, Silver.

*beware: product does EXACTLY what it's made to do!!*
**Those with weak hearts, prone to strokes, and aneursyms shouldn't use this...you'll explode!**

let me tell you how life changed after i met this thing here!! i was introduced to this after a girlfriend of mine took me to a passion party. the host was MIGHTY excited about it..and she was 43 years old! seeing her excitement, i bought one. after using it (and almost passing out), i threw it across the room and just looked at it. my SUPERMAN had arrived (and i'm not talkin' soulja boy)!

weighing about 1.6 oz. (yes, ounces!!), this wireless device can fit in the palm of your hand discreetly. speeds range from one to five (typically). it's cute and can be hidden in your purse, secret compartment, etc. this is definitely for the girl that doesn't want a giant Oscar-shaped trophy vibrator in the bottom of their Louis Vuitton hand bag...

ladies, this is used against the clit for stimulation. if you're a dare devil and want to insert this, gooooood luck! i'm not for fetching anything up there, but whatever tickles your pickle...

didn't know they sold 'em but check out amazon.com!

http://www.amazon.com/Screaming-O-Bullet-Vibrator-Silver/dp/B000RO6CK6

also can be found at your local sex store...

"School is in Session"

2008-12-28T21:04:00.031-05:00

*THIS POST IS DEDICATED TO THE LADIES*

*FELLAS, SIT BACK AND ENJOY*

(PUN INTENDED)

ladies, today i have learned, that in this year of two thousand eight a.d., women still have issues with giving a man head, or have never suited up and performed the act either. LADIES...WHAT IS GOING ON?!

okay, i admit: i'm very comfortable with doing it...some aren't, and i get that. so after i had a few birdies in my ear today expressing these things, i felt it NECESSARY to dedicate today's entry on schooling and/or helping my ladies that may be a little apprehensive about giving the big B.J.

*tip: just like a man, be choosy on who you do this to! every man is SOOO not worthy of having this done. there are a lot of guys that don't not clean themselves!*

before we get to it, ladies, let's be real...if you're not suckin' his dick, someone else WILL. that's a given, and a fact of life. i understand about being a lady, prim, proper, and all that jazz, but sistas, when the lights go out (or for those of us that like to watch...hehe), and the door's closed, it's on! just like a man has to deal with us suffocating them, pushing their heads here and there, directing their tongues to go that way instead of this way and expect them to stay down there for hours on end, they expect (just a lil) attention from you. now understand that, like us, every guy isn't going to like the same things. this entry is a basic foundation of how to do it. with that said, let's get to the good stuff.

relax and take notes:

your best bet is to initiate it; there's nothing worse than a man making you feel like a slut. if you nominate yourself for it, you're more likely to be comfy for it. the key to a good blow job is to be comfortable, have the right mind set, and remember: the wetter, the better! ladies, this is the time where you put your hair, weave, or wig in a pony tail. Tie it up, even. you don't want to have anything falling in your face or distracting you. distractions ruins the rhythm. also remember that TEETH and using them are NOT allowed!! there is NOTHING that will ruin a man's hard-on quicker than your teeth scathing across his dick!!! OUCH!

next, after it's hard, don't just go for it. tease him a little bit. kiss AROUND the areas without touching it. the inside of his thighs, don't be afraid to lick and suck this area. guys are just as sensitive as we are, ladies. the area where (if you can imagine) he would put his hands if he had pockets is VERRRRRY sensitive. kissing and licking this area will make them go crazy.

once you've done all of that, start of the base of his dick and slowly lick from the bottom up. now the key is to make sure that your tongue is wet. imagine if it's a popsicle or lollipop...whatever you have to tell yourself that this is the best tasting something you've ever experienced.

NOW...(the fun part), grab the bottom (or base) of his dick w/one hand, and hold it tight so you have a good grip on it. DON'T CHOKE IT! now, slowly go up on the shaft and stop at the bottom of the head...hold it...now, part your lips and put your mouth on it. *this is the part where you salivate (and i mean a lot) on it*, now let go and cover the head w/just your lips. sista...suuuuck like your life depends on it. a man's head of his penis is the most sensitive part. go up and down, make noises, moan with it. moaning is sexy, and it also helps you breathe. this is also a good way to get you ready to open wider and go down further on it.

alright, we're almost there. while holding the base of his dick, you open and suck up and suck down. remember to keep salivating from time to time to keep it wet. holding the base is a good way to have control over his dick. when it's hard, it tends to fly back, to the left or what have you. now the rhythm of your sucking is VERY important. it needs to be consistent, or he's NEVER gonna cum. and there's nothing worse than sitting there for 30 mins with cotton mouth and lock jaw tryna make this fool cum...okay, anyway, keep the rhythm. you can think about a beat of a song if you're not sure. guys will tell you to suck it harder, faster, slow down, speed up, etc. don't be alarmed or feel like a slut...just do it. also, please ladies don't get too crunk...take your time. you're in control, no matter how many demands he gives.

tricks of the trade:

-LOVE THE D! look at it like it's the best thing since sliced bread...become one with it. HELL, STARE AT IT. close your eyes and lose yourself. this moment is NOT about you. if you act like it's a chore, it will be. psyching your mind like this gets you ready. plus, don't be afraid of it!!! grab that bad boy like it's yours!

-when you are sucking up and down, swirl your tongue around it at the same time. they act like fools when you do this. this takes skill, so don't try it and choke on it. you must be able to do two things at one time! and remember: YOU MUST KEEP THE RHYTHM!

-put a good helping of vaseline AROUND and on your lips. this method helps your mouth to open wider. TRUST ME: this works!!

-simply relax your throat and go slower if you want to go down further. the more you practice letting it go deeper in your mouth, the easier it becomes. perfect practice makes perfect!

-his BALLS are your friend, enough said! they aren't there to hang like a new handbag on your arm. if you're not ready to partake in sucking on them, then wet your fingers with some lube, or what have you, and play with them as you suck.

the finale

alrighty now...

you're going and going and he FINALLY says (if he's nice) "i'm about to cum". this is where your own judgement comes into play if you want to catch it or not. for all the freaks out there, catch it in your mouth. now, when he's cum'n, you suck your jaws in hard and suck up as slooooow as you can. make sure you suck it all out.

*LADIES, DO NOT THINK at this moment*

if you're surprised, you're gonna swallow it...and if you don't want to swallow it, you're gonna be pissed. just keep your mind clear and just focus on this moment here...SUUUUUCK and don't let go until about 10 seconds afterwards.

now, you can either spit it out or swallow it. if you want to swallow it, do it quick.

get a joy as you stroke his dick and he strokes your ego....happy sucking! :)

"A Little Man Pleasure..."

2008-12-26T02:35:00.006-05:00

question:

i'm a guy; is it possible to masturbate too much?

"can't nobody please yourself like yourself", i always say. :) i'm a firm believer in self pleasure. matter of fact, i'm an AD.VO.CATE. of it. honey, we live in a world where a simple quickie can turn into a penis amputation at the Outpatient Center at the nearby hospital. :-/ stick to my advice and keep to yourself!

masturbation is simply a form of self release and self pleasure. if you've got the urge (and the cum to supply the need), do that...unless you're doing it everywhere, like church, then you would need to seek some professional counseling.

A few of my favorite things...

2008-12-25T21:57:00.007-05:00

Merry Christmas! Now that all the gifts are unwrapped and eggnog has been tossed back, let's get to business!

I've decided to post some of my favorite things to share...call it my gift to you! :)

Trojan Her Pleasure was designed with the woman in mind. The long bulb shaped head and raised treads on the shaft are a perfect combination. The loose fitting head with all the extra latex moving around makes for extra stimulation for him as well as her. Lubricated and features a reservoir tip for added security against breakage.

These are #1 in my book!! To me, all the "thin things", things w/rivets, bullets, spirals, slingshots, machetes, etc. don't do it for me! This condom is a great fit that feels like it's barely there for both parties. The lubricant adds that extra stimulation that you wouldn't normally get from another condom.

The Magnum condom is a very popular condom from a name you can trust. Magnum condoms are the large Trojan condoms that made Trojan Famous. Everyone wants to say they use a Magnum condom! Made from premium quality latex to reduce the risk and lubricated for comfort and sensitivity. Each Magnum condom is electronically tested to help ensure reliability. Trojan Magnum condoms, for the big boys of the neighborhood.

These for me are okay. They don't have that extra kick (for me) like the HerPleasures, however, they get the job done! Everyone wants to say they use a Magnum condom! Trust me: everyone can't, so don't front!! Fellas, if you can't, that's okay! As long as you're wearing one...THAT FITS <---very important...is all that matters.

My issue with this condom is that if you thrust too fast or hard, it tends to dry out after a while. Now, I gotta hold this pretzel position I'm in, with my face in the pillow and my hands tied to the ceiling fan and wait for you to GET UP and put on another condom. Now that we're blinded by the light so we can see to have this DEJA VU moment again, it's possible you're not hard anymore, so now I have to...(sigh) never mind! IMO, it needs to stay wet from start to finish (without adding any lube). Whatever...it still works.

Wet Platinum® Premium Body Glide--Guaranteed never sticky, this premium body glide is our longest lasting formula. It never dries so it leaves your skin feeling soft and moisturized. It does not break down in water so try it in the bath, shower, or spa. It is also great for full body massage and skin conditioning. The silky smooth 100% silicone formula is latex friendly and doctor recommended.

*Dries eyes* Okay my friends...this product is B.O.M.B. I had a girlfriend hip me on to it. It does exactly what it says: IT.STAYS.WET.LONGER. Please glide and ride at your own risk! Hehe 0:-)

Credit: Product information obtained from

http://www.stayswetlonger.com/

http://www.allcondoms.com/

"Three's Cum'pany"

2008-12-25T20:57:00.004-05:00

Photo Credit: Earlland Photography

hey girl,

last year i had a threesome with my boyfriend and a guy friend of his...it was great..but ever since, ive been wanting to have sex with his friend, cuz he was amazing..wut should i do? my boyfriend's friend is better than my bf!!

whoooo!!! ::fans self:: wow!! ok, in no way would i advise cheatin' on your man. that's first and foremost. however, what "hot buttons" did his homeboy push that your man doesn't to you? i'm pretty sure you remember!! so with that said, how about showin' your man what you like! one thing a man is never afraid of is pleasin' his lady, so teach him to do that! trust me girl, there are men out that are taller, sexier, with more money, and a bigger dick that could definitely do it better than your man...that don't mean you go hop on it. you work with what you have and keep it strokin'.

"No Emotional Ties"

2008-12-25T20:22:00.005-05:00

tootsie,

there's this guy i used to date. we had a great sex life when we were 2gether. anyways, we no longer talk, but he'll be in town this wkd and i really wanna give him some head. should i call him and make it happen?? by the way: i have no emotinal ties to him.

Throat Banger,

hmm...when you say you have no emotional ties to him, are you sure about that? If you are, okay...proceed to read. There's nothing i love more than to be in control of a man's orgasm. Hell, it gives me a kick to see them in our shoes for once with their eyes in the back of their heads and them moaning like a $2 whore at work. however, in your situation, if this is something you want to do, go for it! i don't know any (straight) man that's gonna pass up on some good ole fashion slobbin' on his knob. just be careful: he could have had a few others slob on it after you broke up and before you get to see him this weekend...keep that in mind.

"Lights, Camera, Action!"

2008-12-13T09:17:00.010-05:00

tootsie,

my boyfriend wants to make a video tape of us havin sex..it's something i really wanna do as well, but im scared it could get n2 the wrong hands..should i do it?

kinky!! i can't say that i have done this, but it's definitely something that has crossed my mind. girlfriend to girlfriend, if it happened to kim kardashian, what do you think could happen to you? Now, I'm not saying that it would, but everyone's plea is "it was supposed to be something that was private for us to share." however, what if you two break up? then what? how do you know he didn't make a couple copies to have at his house just to watch when you weren't there? honey, i say DON'T TAPE IT!!! What i will tell you to do is hook the camera up to the tv, to where you can see yourselves, and have sex. that way, you can watch yourselves on the screen without it actually recording. But save yourself the shame later on down the line. Something as salacious as a sex tape can follow you for the rest of your life. take my advice: bang the booty without record!

p.s. if you do make a tape, send me a copy! times are hard...(j/k)

"I'm a screamer..."

2008-12-13T01:55:00.005-05:00

tootsie,

when i have sex, i tend to get really loud. i try to keep it down, but i just cant. my boyfriend has tried covering my mouth, i put my face in the pillow..everything, but i still remain loud. my boyfriend lives with family so im soo embarrassed..what should i do?

-i'm a screamer...

honey, there is nothin' wrong w/gettin' buck wild and loud with your man. hell, i, myself am guilty for it. however, there's nothin' that can kill an after glow faster than walking out in to a living room and looking straight into the eye of someone's auntie, nephew, cousin, etc. they all sit there and try to play and pretend like they didn't hear you, but they all heard you!

now, in your defense, are you screaming b/c you're in pain or b/c he's hittin' it right? since you failed to indicate, i'm assuming he's doing his job. if this is the case, ask him to grind slower or blast some music to muffle the sound. either way, calm it down and put your panties in your mouth while at his house, or take it somewhere else...like outside in the car until you can get that together.

bienvenue!

2008-12-13T01:49:00.006-05:00

thanks for taking time out to check out tootsie.talk. tootsie.talk is a blog I designed to answer some of the most sexual questions i receieve from various friends and collegues on a daily basis. i get questions from guys and girls of all ages asking me my opinion about their issues.

in no way do i promote myself as the "sex guru that has arrived." i am a woman in her 20s that is merely comfortable sharing her sharing her point of view, mistakes, and experiences with others. i will have guest hosts from time to time to spice things up. please feel free to show them l♥ve!

if you have a question, please feel free to email me at tootsietalk@gmail.com. no question is embarrassing! welcome to tootsie.talk: the sexiest talk on the 'net!